Tuesday, July 14, 2026



James Donaldson on Mental Health - Weekly Research Digest: Bullying, Social Media, and SSRI’s Link to Suicide
Recent studies examine how bullying, social media use, and antidepressant treatment influence suicide risk and mental health in adolescents and young adults.

By Richard Sears

This week, Mad in America examines research around increased suicide risk in children and adolescents related to bullying in high-school and the use of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), and the impact of reducing social media use on the mental health of young adults.

Bullying and Suicide Attempts Among US High School Students

A recently published research letter in JAMA Network Open finds high-school students that experience bullying at school are more likely to attempt suicide. This research, led by Khushboo R. Agarwal from the City University of New York, also finds that the link between being bullied and attempting suicide is stronger in female high-school students.

The goal of the current work was to examine the relationship between bullying and suicide attempts in US high-school students. The authors used data collected by the 2023 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (YRBSS), an anonymous, self-report survey conducted each year in all 50 US states.

Exposure to bullying was measured using a single question: “During the past 12 months, have you ever been bullied on school property?” Suicide attempts were measured by asking participants if they had attempted suicide in the past 12 months. The authors used YRBSS data on age, sex, race, ethnicity, sexual identity, and gender identity to access how these factors affected the relationship between bullying and suicide attempts.

Non-bullied males served as the comparator group in the current research due to their lower number of suicide attempts. The authors note that although males attempt suicide less often than females, males complete suicide significantly more frequently. In total, the current work examined data from 20,103 high-school students.

Nineteen-point-two percent of participants reported experiencing bullying on school property and 9.5% reported a suicide attempt in the past year. Transgender students (42.6%) and those reporting uncertainty about their gender identity (38.8%) were much more likely to be bullied at school compared to other groups. Female (21.9%), white (23.2%), multiracial (21.5%), and LGBQ+ (28.7%) students, as well as those between 12 – 14 years old (23.5%), also reported higher rates of bullying.

Overall, students that reported bullying were 3.58 times more likely than non-bullied males to attempt suicide. Bullied females were most likely to attempt suicide, and did so 5.65 times more often than non-bullied males. Bullied males (3.25) and non-bullied females (1.5) were also more likely to attempt suicide.

This study had several limitations. The authors did not measure the severity of bullying. This research also did not include teens that completed suicide. As males complete suicide at much higher rates than females, some of the sex differences observed may have been biased by this exclusion. The self report nature of the survey could also bias the data through participants misremembering or providing socially acceptable, rather than true, answers. As the sample was self-selected and exclusively from the United States, generalizability to other populations is limited.

Social Media Detox and Youth Mental Health

A new study published in JAMA Network Open finds that reducing social media use improves symptoms of depression, anxiety, and insomnia in young adults. However, reducing social media use did not improve feelings of loneliness. The current work, led by Elombe Calvert from the Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, also did not find significant behavioral changes linked to social media reduction.

This study had three goals: (1) to investigate social media’s impact on the mental health of young adults, (2) to explore the effect of abstaining from social media for one week on symptoms of anxiety, depression, insomnia, and loneliness, and (3) to determine whether reducing social media use was linked to mental health states or behavioral changes.

The authors recruited US based participants online through an app called ResearchMatch. Participants had to be between 18 to 24 years old, own a smartphone that was compatible with mindLAMP (a data collection app), speak English, and have the ability to provide informed consent and complete virtual study visits. A data collection app provided the authors with information on mobility, screen time, and incoming and outgoing calls and texts. Race and ethnicity were self-reported.

Participants answered self-report surveys on mental health and social media use at three virtual meetings. The first meeting was a baseline measure, the second meeting occurred after two weeks of monitoring, and the third meeting after some participants opted into a week long social media detox targeting five social media platforms: Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, and Twitter.

Mental health symptoms were measured using the Patient Health Questionnaire-9 (depression), Generalized Anxiety Disorder-7, Insomnia Severity Index, UCLA Loneliness Scale, and the Rosenberg Self-esteem Scale. Social media use was measured using the Problematic Use of Social Networks Scale, Bergen Social Media Addiction Scale, and the Negative Social Media Comparison Scale. Three-hundred and seventy-three participants completed the baseline surveys and 295 completed the one week social media detox.

Ninety-three point eight percent of participants used at least one of the included social media platforms during the baseline measure, averaging 1.9 hours per day on these platforms. Females had higher daily social media use (2 hours per day) compared to males (1.3 hours per day). During the one week detox, participants spent an average of 0.5 hours per day on the included social media platforms.

Participants that completed the one week detox reported reduced symptoms of anxiety (16.1%), depression (24.8%), and insomnia (14.5%). Some small behavioral changes were observed during the detox period, with participants slightly increasing their overall screen time and time at home. However, the authors note that these changes were small compared to the day-to-day variability in these behaviors.

The authors acknowledge several limitations to this research. The participants were mostly female and college educated, limiting generalizability to other populations. The sample was nonclinical, meaning they did not have a mental health diagnosis. The self-report nature of the surveys means the data was susceptible to bias due to misremembering and giving socially acceptable, rather than true, answers. Participants could have been accessing social media platforms on other devices. Participant behavior could have been affected by being monitored rather than as a reaction to reduced social media use. There were no follow up visits with participants after the initial post detox visit, meaning the long-term changes to mental health symptoms was not measured.

Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs), Childhood and Adolescent Depression, and Suicidality Following the FDA’s 2004 Black Box Warning: A Systematized Literature Review

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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A new literature review published in Springer Nature: Cureus finds that SSRI use by children and adolescents is linked to increased risk of suicide. This review, led by Harlin Kaur from Creighton University School of Medicine, additionally finds that the increase in suicide risk is especially high during the initial treatment period.

The goal of the current work was to examine the link between SSRI use in children and adolescents to increased risk of suicide. To accomplish this goal, the authors decided to review studies that examined this relationship. To be included in the current review, studies had to examine service users under the age of 18 with a major depressive disorder (MDD) diagnosis that were taking SSRIs. The included studies were peer-reviewed, published in English, and examined increased suicide risk linked to SSRI use. In total, eight studies were included in the current review.

Two of the four randomized control trials (RCTs) revealed a link between SSRI use in children and adolescents with an MDD diagnosis that were taking SSRIs, and three of the four observational studies did so. The RCTs reported that cognitive behavioral therapy may lessen the increased risk of suicide associated with SSRI use.

“This systematized literature review found a measurable association between SSRI use for the treatment of adolescent major MDD and an increased risk of suicidality,” the researchers concluded. https://standingabovethecrowd.com/?p=16405

Monday, July 13, 2026

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Statement from NAMI CEO Daniel H. Gillison Jr. on Supporting Mental Health During Times of Community Stress Related to Immigration Enforcement Actions

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Statement from NAMI CEO Daniel H. Gillison Jr. on Supporting Mental Health During Times of Community Stress Related to Immigration Enforcement Actions

“Across the country, people are experiencing fear and trauma during times of heightened community stress. As people speak up and seek to be heard, responding with violence is never the answer. These ongoing activities are taking a toll on individuals and families, with particularly deep impact among our country’s tight-knit immigrant communities, leaving many people living with fear and uncertainty. The extent of the direct and vicarious impact can be difficult to fully understand and could have lifetime mental health impact. NAMI stands in solidarity with everyone affected across the country. You are not alone.”


#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy


Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson



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If you or someone you love is feeling overwhelmed, support is available. You can contact the NAMI HelpLine at 1-800-950-NAMI (6264), text NAMI to 62640, or visit nami.org/help for free, confidential information, referrals, and peer support. If you are in immediate distress or crisis, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7 in English, Spanish, and other languages.


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James Donaldson on Mental Health - The Role of Friendships in Mental Health Recovery

James Donaldson on Mental Health - The Role of Friendships in Mental Health Recovery

In today's fast-paced world, mental health has become a crucial topic of discussion. While therapy, medication, and self-help strategies are often highlighted, the role of friendships in mental health recovery is equally significant. Friendships provide emotional support, companionship, and a sense of belonging, all of which are vital for mental well-being. This blog post delves into how friendships can aid in mental health recovery and why they are an essential component of a holistic healing approach.


Table of Contents


1. Introduction to Mental Health Recovery


2. The Importance of Friendships in Mental Health


3. How Friendships Aid in Recovery


4. Building Strong Friendships for Better Mental Health


5. Challenges in Maintaining Friendships During Recovery


6. Conclusion


7. FAQs


Blog post illustration


#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy


Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson



Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog



Introduction to Mental Health Recovery


Mental health recovery is a personal journey of gaining control over one's life despite the challenges posed by mental health issues. It involves not just reducing symptoms but also achieving a fulfilling life. While professional help can guide this journey, the support from friends often plays a pivotal role in navigating the ups and downs of recovery.


The Importance of Friendships in Mental Health


Friendships serve as a cornerstone for mental health. They provide emotional support, reduce feelings of loneliness, and offer a different perspective on life’s challenges. A good friend can be a sounding board, a source of motivation, and a companion during tough times. Moreover, friendships encourage social engagement, which is crucial for mental well-being.


How Friendships Aid in Recovery


In the context of mental health recovery, friendships can have several positive impacts:


1. Emotional Support

Friends can offer a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on during difficult times. They provide reassurance, understanding, and empathy, which can significantly alleviate stress and anxiety.


2. Encouragement and Motivation

Friends often motivate us to pursue our goals and remind us of our strengths. Their encouragement can be a driving force in overcoming obstacles and achieving milestones in recovery.


3. Social Engagement

Isolation can exacerbate mental health issues. Friendships encourage social interaction, which can improve mood and reduce feelings of loneliness. Engaging in activities with friends can also provide a sense of normalcy and routine.


4. Perspective and Insight

Friends can offer different perspectives on problems, helping us see situations from a new angle. This can lead to better problem-solving and decision-making, which are essential skills during recovery.


Building Strong Friendships for Better Mental Health


While existing friendships can aid recovery, it’s also important to nurture and build new connections. Here are some tips for fostering strong friendships:


1. Be Open and Honest

Honesty is the foundation of any strong relationship. Share your feelings and experiences with your friends. This openness can strengthen your bond and create a supportive environment.


2. Invest Time and Effort

Friendships require time and effort. Make time for regular interactions, whether it’s through phone calls, texts, or face-to-face meetings. These regular touchpoints can help maintain the connection.


3. Be Supportive

Support is a two-way street. Be there for your friends in their times of need as well. This mutual support can foster a deeper connection and create a balanced relationship.


Challenges in Maintaining Friendships During Recovery


While friendships are beneficial, maintaining them during recovery can be challenging. You might feel overwhelmed, or your friends might not fully understand your situation. Here are some common challenges and how to tackle them:


1. Communication Barriers

Open communication can sometimes be difficult. Be honest about your needs and limitations, and encourage your friends to share their thoughts as well.


2. Emotional Overwhelm

Recovery can be emotionally taxing, which might affect your ability to engage socially. It's okay to take breaks and prioritize self-care when needed.


3. Misunderstandings

Friends may not always understand your mental health struggles. Educate them about your condition and the recovery process to foster understanding and empathy.


Conclusion


Friendships are a powerful tool in the journey of mental health recovery. They provide support, companionship, and perspective, which are vital for healing. While challenges may arise, nurturing strong friendships can significantly enhance the recovery process. Remember, you are not alone on this journey, and reaching out can make all the difference.


FAQs


1. How can I support a friend going through mental health recovery?

Listen without judgment, offer your presence, encourage them to seek professional help, and educate yourself about their condition to provide informed support.


2. Can making new friends help in mental health recovery?

Yes, new friendships can introduce fresh perspectives and support networks, contributing positively to mental health recovery.


3. What if my friends don’t understand my mental health struggles?

Try to communicate openly and educate them about your experiences. If they continue to misunderstand, consider seeking support from other sources, such as support groups or mental health professionals.


https://standingabovethecrowd.com/the-role-of-friendships-in-mental-health-recovery/


James Donaldson on Mental Health - Statement from NAMI CEO Daniel H. Gillison Jr. on Supporting Mental Health During Times of Community Stress Related to Immigration Enforcement Actions
“Across the country, people are experiencing fear and trauma during times of heightened community stress. As people speak up and seek to be heard, responding with violence is never the answer. These ongoing activities are taking a toll on individuals and families, with particularly deep impact among our country’s tight-knit immigrant communities, leaving many people living with fear and uncertainty. The extent of the direct and vicarious impact can be difficult to fully understand and could have lifetime mental health impact. NAMI stands in solidarity with everyone affected across the country. You are not alone.”

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

If you or someone you love is feeling overwhelmed, support is available. You can contact the NAMI HelpLine at 1-800-950-NAMI (6264), text NAMI to 62640, or visit nami.org/help for free, confidential information, referrals, and peer support. If you are in immediate distress or crisis, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7 in English, Spanish, and other languages. https://standingabovethecrowd.com/?p=16402

Sunday, July 12, 2026



James Donaldson on Mental Health - Does Your Child Lack Motivation?
What it could mean when kids just don't seem to be trying very hard in school

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Writer: Danielle Cohen

Clinical Expert: Matthew Cruger, PhD

What You'll Learn

- Why do some kids lack motivation in school?

- What should you do if your child is not motivated?

- What kinds of underlying challenges can get in the way of kids’ motivation?

- Quick Read

- Full Article

- Gather information

- Are there social factors?

- Does your child have a skills deficit?

- It could really just be boredom

- What other things undermine kids in school?

- It’s a process

Kids of all ages sometimes struggle to get motivated in school. Maybe they fight doing homework, let their grades drop, or just don’t seem excited about learning. If you notice that your child has issues with motivation, the first step is to figure out what is standing in their way.

Start by gathering information about what exactly worries you. Talking to the child’s teacher can help you understand whether your expectations are reasonable and whether they’ve noticed a problem. If your child recently changed schools or started a new phase of school (like kindergarten or middle school), they may be adjusting to the transition. Talk to your child, too. If they say they’re bored, what do they mean by that? Kids who are feeling anxious or frustrated might need help to find the right words. It could also be that they’re withdrawing from academics in order to fit in with friends or seem cool to other kids.

One of the most common reasons that kids lack motivation is trouble with academic skills. They might have a learning disorder, a language disorder, or difficulty with executive functions. The issue could also be an underlying mental health challenge like ADHD, anxiety, depression or OCD. In rare cases, students who are academically gifted may be simply bored by school and need more challenging work to stay motivated.

If you think that a learning or mental health issue might be holding your child back, getting them evaluated by a professional can help. Treatment can often reduce their symptoms and help them get excited about school again. And if your child does not have a diagnosable problem, there are still parenting strategies you can use to support them.

It can happen at any point between kindergarten and high school graduation — and even after that. It’s a common but serious source of worry for parents: You start to notice a lack of motivation and commitment in your child’s attitude towards school.

Maybe they don’t seem enthusiastic to learn new things. Maybe they’re not doing their homework. Maybe their grades are dropping. Maybe a fight occurs whenever you try to sit them down to do work.

Whatever the specific problem is, many parents find themselves wondering why a child just doesn’t seem to be trying very hard in school, and how they can help them get motivated.

Gather information

There are many potential reasons that a child might be turned off by school. Here are some first steps you can take to investigate what might be happening:

- Define your concerns clearly. What are the behaviors that make you think they’re not engaged? A close look at what they’re doing — or not doing — will help you identify what may be happening.

- If they say they’re bored, what do they mean? Many children use the word “bored” to describe how they feel in class, but their definition of “bored” may not match yours. Sometimes kids who are challenged or frustrated aren’t sure what to call the feeling.

- Talk to the teacher. Your child’s teacher is one of the best resources you can use to both help you identify the issues and then find ways to address them. “The teacher can offer six hours of a day worth of information about what the child is doing,” notes Rachel Busman, PsyD, a clinical psychologist.

- Clarify your expectations. Get a reality check from the teacher to make sure your expectations are realistic for your kid’s age and developmental level.

- Is it part of the learning process? “There’s a normal amount of trepidation that comes with learning new things,” explains Dr. Busman. “A child who’s learning to read, for instance, may not be ‘motivated’ because it’s new for them and it’s not the easiest thing.” The teacher can let you know if they think your child is just going through a rough patch.

- Are there changes at school? It’s common for students to stumble during their first couple months of kindergarten or middle school because these transitions require a lot of adjustment. “A lot of preschool settings are much more social and emotional and not so academic, so it’s a big change to go from being in preschool to kindergarten,” notes Laura Fuhrman, PsyD, a neuropsychologist. Ken Schuster, PsyD, a neuropsychologist at the Child Mind Institute and former teacher observes a similar pattern at the beginning of middle school, where kids are expected to be much more independent and organized.

- Has your child changed schools? In the same way, changing schools also may involve some academic struggles as your child adjusts to a new environment.

Are there social factors?

Dr. Fuhrman notes that starting in middle school, kids’ attitudes become subject to a host of new social interactions and pressures. Unfortunately, kids who do well in school sometimes encounter social isolation, and to avoid being labeled as a geek or a nerd they may withdraw from academics.

“In middle school, kids don’t want to be different,” she says, “and they might try to develop an identity that reduces their experience of shame and humiliation in front of their peers.”

While you may have little control over this situation as a parent, the best thing you can do to resist it is to continue fostering a love of learning. Look for opportunities for your child to pursue their interests outside of school and meet other kids who share their interests.

Does your child have a skills deficit?

If you continue to see an unmotivated kid who is underperforming, it may be because they haven’t developed the skills they need to thrive, because of a learning or language disorder, or executive function challenges. When a child encounters difficulty, especially if the problem hasn’t been identified, their reaction may be to stop trying in the area that’s frustrating for them.

“We call it a learned helplessness,” Dr. Fuhrman explains. “When they find they’re not meeting the level of success, kids have a tendency to give up, because whatever they’re doing just isn’t working.”

These difficulties may pop up at different times, as each year’s curriculum requires higher levels of skill. Kids with reading disorders like dyslexia may begin to struggle around first grade, when reading becomes important, as well as third grade, when material starts to get more complex. Many executive functioning issues become visible at the beginning of middle school, where students are expected to be a lot more independently organized, both with their work and with their belongings.

As these skills deficits become more and more difficult to hide, students who are embarrassed or frustrated by their struggles often stop trying to conquer them. With help, kids with skills deficits can eventually start to excel in school by learning ways to manage these difficulties and by utilizing school resources that enable them to play to their strengths.

It could really just be boredom

Though it occurs a lot less often than parents suspect, some children are simply not being stimulated enough by their school settings. These may be what experts call “gifted” kids, whose intellectual capabilities are much stronger than most of their peers. These students will often pursue their own academic interests (whether these be reading, writing, math, or science) outside of school and find the curriculum, which is going over what they’ve already learned on their own time, unstimulating.

Another way that giftedness can cause kids to disconnect is when they’re gifted in very specific areas, and they’re so fascinated with those areas that they’d rather think about them during class than pay attention to what their teachers are saying.

But Matthew Cruger, PhD, a psychologist at the Child Mind Institute who has worked with a lot of gifted children, is skeptical that a child’s lack of motivation can be caused solely by giftedness. “I would expect the most gifted kids to find something compelling about the curriculum,” Dr. Cruger says. If nothing in school piques a child’s interest, the child could be gifted and also have a diagnosis that’s holding them back and undermining motivation.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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What other things undermine kids in school?

While learning disorders and other skills deficits are most commonly associated with a lack of interest in school, there are other common diagnoses that manifest in this way.

- ADHD After learning disorders, ADHD is probably the most common cause for kids to fall behind in school. The combination of energy, impatience, impulsivity, and distractibility can make it incredibly difficult for a child with ADHD to function in a typical classroom. “Kids with ADHD may find school particularly challenging because they often miss out on cues and information that’s important for them to do well,” explains Kristin Carothers, PhD, a psychologist. “They also may be getting lots of negative attention from teachers because their behavior can be disruptive, and that might result in them being less motivated to perform.”

- Anxiety Separation anxiety might cause a child to be distracted or even refuse to attend school because they’re so worried something might happen when they’re away from their parents. The problem could also be social anxiety, where interacting with their classmates and teachers makes a kid so worried they’d rather skip class than participate in a small work group, or never raise their hand. Kids with generalized anxiety also worry about academics, and may become so stressed about their work being perfect that they just give up because they feel it’s not good enough.

- Depression One of the key symptoms of depression is a reduced interest in activities that once interested a child. If there was once a time when your child did feel stimulated by school, and the newfound disinterest is coupled with other symptoms like irritability or sadness, it’s possible they are suffering from depression.

- OCD In the same way that anxiety can prevent a child from focusing in class, OCD can also become a barrier to their learning. Kids with OCD could be so worried about making a mistake that they feel the need to reread everything or erase and rewrite their homework over and over again until it’s perfect. They may even feel like their desk is contaminated, and spend so much time worrying about it that they’re not aware of what’s going on in class. They might develop obsessions and rituals that can get in the way of their schoolwork and make it seem as if they have very little desire to learn.

It’s a process

If your child has a disorder that is getting in the way of learning, treatment will help them become more engaged and motivated in school.

For kids who don’t need treatment but do need help getting motivated, there are some things parents and teachers can do to help. And keep in mind that some kids will develop motivation as they get older. “Your kid may be at a developmental period where it’s harder to have their own motivation,” says Dr. Carothers, “but that doesn’t mean they won’t be successful in the future.

Frequently Asked Questions

How can I motivate my child?

To motivate your child, you can start by gathering information from your child about what’s getting in the way of their motivation. It could be that they are experiencing anxiety or a mental health disorder, or maybe they are bored and not being challenged enough.

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James Donaldson on Mental Health - Does Your Child Lack Motivation?

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Does Your Child Lack Motivation?

What it could mean when kids just don't seem to be trying very hard in school


Photo by Aissa Bouabellou on Pexels.com

Writer: Danielle Cohen


Clinical Expert: Matthew Cruger, PhD


What You'll Learn


- Why do some kids lack motivation in school?
- What should you do if your child is not motivated?
- What kinds of underlying challenges can get in the way of kids’ motivation?
- Quick Read
- Full Article
- Gather information
- Are there social factors?
- Does your child have a skills deficit?
- It could really just be boredom
- What other things undermine kids in school?
- It’s a process

Kids of all ages sometimes struggle to get motivated in school. Maybe they fight doing homework, let their grades drop, or just don’t seem excited about learning. If you notice that your child has issues with motivation, the first step is to figure out what is standing in their way.


Start by gathering information about what exactly worries you. Talking to the child’s teacher can help you understand whether your expectations are reasonable and whether they’ve noticed a problem. If your child recently changed schools or started a new phase of school (like kindergarten or middle school), they may be adjusting to the transition. Talk to your child, too. If they say they’re bored, what do they mean by that? Kids who are feeling anxious or frustrated might need help to find the right words. It could also be that they’re withdrawing from academics in order to fit in with friends or seem cool to other kids.


One of the most common reasons that kids lack motivation is trouble with academic skills. They might have a learning disorder, a language disorder, or difficulty with executive functions. The issue could also be an underlying mental health challenge like ADHD, anxiety, depression or OCD. In rare cases, students who are academically gifted may be simply bored by school and need more challenging work to stay motivated.


If you think that a learning or mental health issue might be holding your child back, getting them evaluated by a professional can help. Treatment can often reduce their symptoms and help them get excited about school again. And if your child does not have a diagnosable problem, there are still parenting strategies you can use to support them.


It can happen at any point between kindergarten and high school graduation — and even after that. It’s a common but serious source of worry for parents: You start to notice a lack of motivation and commitment in your child’s attitude towards school.


Maybe they don’t seem enthusiastic to learn new things. Maybe they’re not doing their homework. Maybe their grades are dropping. Maybe a fight occurs whenever you try to sit them down to do work.


Whatever the specific problem is, many parents find themselves wondering why a child just doesn’t seem to be trying very hard in school, and how they can help them get motivated.


Gather information


There are many potential reasons that a child might be turned off by school. Here are some first steps you can take to investigate what might be happening:


- Define your concerns clearly. What are the behaviors that make you think they’re not engaged? A close look at what they’re doing — or not doing — will help you identify what may be happening.
- If they say they’re bored, what do they mean? Many children use the word “bored” to describe how they feel in class, but their definition of “bored” may not match yours. Sometimes kids who are challenged or frustrated aren’t sure what to call the feeling.
- Talk to the teacher. Your child’s teacher is one of the best resources you can use to both help you identify the issues and then find ways to address them. “The teacher can offer six hours of a day worth of information about what the child is doing,” notes Rachel Busman, PsyD, a clinical psychologist.
- Clarify your expectations. Get a reality check from the teacher to make sure your expectations are realistic for your kid’s age and developmental level.
- Is it part of the learning process? “There’s a normal amount of trepidation that comes with learning new things,” explains Dr. Busman. “A child who’s learning to read, for instance, may not be ‘motivated’ because it’s new for them and it’s not the easiest thing.” The teacher can let you know if they think your child is just going through a rough patch.
- Are there changes at school? It’s common for students to stumble during their first couple months of kindergarten or middle school because these transitions require a lot of adjustment. “A lot of preschool settings are much more social and emotional and not so academic, so it’s a big change to go from being in preschool to kindergarten,” notes Laura Fuhrman, PsyD, a neuropsychologist. Ken Schuster, PsyD, a neuropsychologist at the Child Mind Institute and former teacher observes a similar pattern at the beginning of middle school, where kids are expected to be much more independent and organized.
- Has your child changed schools? In the same way, changing schools also may involve some academic struggles as your child adjusts to a new environment.

Are there social factors?


Dr. Fuhrman notes that starting in middle school, kids’ attitudes become subject to a host of new social interactions and pressures. Unfortunately, kids who do well in school sometimes encounter social isolation, and to avoid being labeled as a geek or a nerd they may withdraw from academics.


“In middle school, kids don’t want to be different,” she says, “and they might try to develop an identity that reduces their experience of shame and humiliation in front of their peers.”


While you may have little control over this situation as a parent, the best thing you can do to resist it is to continue fostering a love of learning. Look for opportunities for your child to pursue their interests outside of school and meet other kids who share their interests.


Does your child have a skills deficit?


If you continue to see an unmotivated kid who is underperforming, it may be because they haven’t developed the skills they need to thrive, because of a learning or language disorder, or executive function challenges. When a child encounters difficulty, especially if the problem hasn’t been identified, their reaction may be to stop trying in the area that’s frustrating for them.


“We call it a learned helplessness,” Dr. Fuhrman explains. “When they find they’re not meeting the level of success, kids have a tendency to give up, because whatever they’re doing just isn’t working.”


These difficulties may pop up at different times, as each year’s curriculum requires higher levels of skill. Kids with reading disorders like dyslexia may begin to struggle around first grade, when reading becomes important, as well as third grade, when material starts to get more complex. Many executive functioning issues become visible at the beginning of middle school, where students are expected to be a lot more independently organized, both with their work and with their belongings.


As these skills deficits become more and more difficult to hide, students who are embarrassed or frustrated by their struggles often stop trying to conquer them. With help, kids with skills deficits can eventually start to excel in school by learning ways to manage these difficulties and by utilizing school resources that enable them to play to their strengths.


It could really just be boredom


Though it occurs a lot less often than parents suspect, some children are simply not being stimulated enough by their school settings. These may be what experts call “gifted” kids, whose intellectual capabilities are much stronger than most of their peers. These students will often pursue their own academic interests (whether these be reading, writing, math, or science) outside of school and find the curriculum, which is going over what they’ve already learned on their own time, unstimulating.


Another way that giftedness can cause kids to disconnect is when they’re gifted in very specific areas, and they’re so fascinated with those areas that they’d rather think about them during class than pay attention to what their teachers are saying.


But Matthew Cruger, PhD, a psychologist at the Child Mind Institute who has worked with a lot of gifted children, is skeptical that a child’s lack of motivation can be caused solely by giftedness. “I would expect the most gifted kids to find something compelling about the curriculum,” Dr. Cruger says. If nothing in school piques a child’s interest, the child could be gifted and also have a diagnosis that’s holding them back and undermining motivation.


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What other things undermine kids in school?


While learning disorders and other skills deficits are most commonly associated with a lack of interest in school, there are other common diagnoses that manifest in this way.


- ADHD After learning disorders, ADHD is probably the most common cause for kids to fall behind in school. The combination of energy, impatience, impulsivity, and distractibility can make it incredibly difficult for a child with ADHD to function in a typical classroom. “Kids with ADHD may find school particularly challenging because they often miss out on cues and information that’s important for them to do well,” explains Kristin Carothers, PhD, a psychologist. “They also may be getting lots of negative attention from teachers because their behavior can be disruptive, and that might result in them being less motivated to perform.”
- Anxiety Separation anxiety might cause a child to be distracted or even refuse to attend school because they’re so worried something might happen when they’re away from their parents. The problem could also be social anxiety, where interacting with their classmates and teachers makes a kid so worried they’d rather skip class than participate in a small work group, or never raise their hand. Kids with generalized anxiety also worry about academics, and may become so stressed about their work being perfect that they just give up because they feel it’s not good enough.
- Depression One of the key symptoms of depression is a reduced interest in activities that once interested a child. If there was once a time when your child did feel stimulated by school, and the newfound disinterest is coupled with other symptoms like irritability or sadness, it’s possible they are suffering from depression.
- OCD In the same way that anxiety can prevent a child from focusing in class, OCD can also become a barrier to their learning. Kids with OCD could be so worried about making a mistake that they feel the need to reread everything or erase and rewrite their homework over and over again until it’s perfect. They may even feel like their desk is contaminated, and spend so much time worrying about it that they’re not aware of what’s going on in class. They might develop obsessions and rituals that can get in the way of their schoolwork and make it seem as if they have very little desire to learn.

It’s a process


If your child has a disorder that is getting in the way of learning, treatment will help them become more engaged and motivated in school.


For kids who don’t need treatment but do need help getting motivated, there are some things parents and teachers can do to help. And keep in mind that some kids will develop motivation as they get older. “Your kid may be at a developmental period where it’s harder to have their own motivation,” says Dr. Carothers, “but that doesn’t mean they won’t be successful in the future.


Frequently Asked Questions


How can I motivate my child?


To motivate your child, you can start by gathering information from your child about what’s getting in the way of their motivation. It could be that they are experiencing anxiety or a mental health disorder, or maybe they are bored and not being challenged enough.


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James Donaldson on Mental Health - Finding Help Following Suicide or an Attempt

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Finding Help Following Suicide or an Attempt

Support related to suicide exists, but it's not always easy to find



By John Bateson


THE BASICS


- Suicide Risk Factors and Signs
- Take our Depression Test
- Find a therapist near me
Key points
- Suicide deaths tend to be traumatic for family members and friends.
- Support groups for those who survive a suicide attempt or parents whose children attempt suicide are rare.
- An hour-long video, “Supporting Parents," is one new resource.

Many crisis centers that operate 24-hour suicide prevention hotlines also provide grief counseling to people who are mourning a death. That’s because many people who have lost a loved one to suicide are more at risk for suicide themselves.


#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy


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The crisis center I directed provided individual counseling and also operated multiple grief support groups. Four of the groups were for survivors of suicide—parents who lost children, youths who lost parents, individuals who lost partners, and others who lost siblings or friends because of suicide. Typically, there were 15 to 20 people in each of these four groups, although sometimes the number was greater, and we needed extra facilitators.


The first night of each group was memorable for one main reason. Upon entering the room, many people gasped. They couldn’t believe that so many other people were there, that so many others had experienced the same tragedy they had experienced, the suicide of a loved one. Until that moment, they felt completely alone.


Our grief counseling director, who was a nationally recognized death educator, started every first night the same way: “I’m so sorry that you’re here, and I’m so glad that you’re here.”


Anytime someone dies, it can be traumatic for survivors. Suicide deaths tend to be the most traumatic of all because of the guilt and stigma attached to them. Survivors think back on every interaction they had with the deceased, especially recent ones, questioning what they did or didn’t do—all of the “what ifs.” Did they miss warning signs? Did they take something the decedent said too lightly? Were they slow to act or did they not act at all, even in the face of what, in retrospect, was ominous?


Support groups for people who have attempted suicide are rare. A few agencies operate them, but they are hard to find, in part because leading this kind of group is daunting. Not only is everyone in it at high risk of suicide, but many suicidal people have emotional needs that can be overwhelming for the facilitator.


Support groups for parents whose children have attempted suicide are even rarer. More often than not, parents seek individual counseling for their child and/or counseling for the family with a private therapist. This, too, can be challenging to find, however, because many clinicians don’t have experience or aren’t comfortable providing this kind of therapy.


One new resource is an hour-long video developed by Zero Suicide titled Supporting Parents. It’s specifically for parents whose child has attempted suicide, and recognizes the fears, anxieties, and questions parents have; the helpless feelings they experience; and the fact that they might feel alone in this, but are not. Many others, sadly, are in the same position.


Having a loved one die or attempt suicide is an isolating experience, but a person doesn’t have to be alone. Help exists.


Zero Suicide is a global health care initiative whose goal isn’t just to prevent suicides but to end them. For anyone who is worried about the safety of a loved one, the only acceptable number when it comes to suicide is zero. Four other resources are noteworthy: The national, three-digit Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (988) connects callers seamlessly to the nearest, certified crisis center so that they can receive immediate, free, confidential counseling. The Crisis Text Line (741741) does the same thing for texters. The Trevor Project (1-888-488-7386) provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexualtransgender, and questioning youth under the age of 25. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) has local chapters throughout the country and provides a variety of support services for mental health consumers and family members.


To find a therapist near you, visit the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.


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