How to make flights and road trips easier for children with autism, anxiety, and other challenges

Writer: Karen Cicero

Clinical Experts: Margaret Dyson, PhD , Cynthia Martin, PsyD

What You'll Learn

- How can families help kids with mental health challenges prepare for air travel?

- What are some ways to make road trips easier for kids with mental health challenges?

- How can families make hotel stays work for kids with mental health challenges?

- Getting ready to fly

- Getting ready for a road trip

- Keeping kids happy while traveling 

- Choosing and staying at a hotel

Are you planning a family trip this year? If your child has anxiety, autism, sensory issues, or other special needs, the travel industry has stepped up to make traveling less challenging for you. The Child Mind Institute tapped its own experts, as well as travel pros and families who travel frequently, to create this guide to help you make flights and road trips easier all year long. 

Getting ready to fly

Research potential airports. More than 16 U.S. airports — including those in Atlanta, Miami, Seattle, and Newark — have dedicated sensory or quiet rooms that families can retreat to rather than waiting at the gate or in a crowded lounge. Some rooms have bean-bag chairs, quiet music, and dim lights while others offer a more tactile experience and even include a small aircraft mock-up for kids to explore. Before booking flights, check the website of your nearby airports and those in your travel destination to see if a sensory room is available. Note the location of the room within the terminal as well. While sensory rooms are open to all flyers, they may be located in a concourse that is used primarily by a specific airline. In that case, you may want to prioritize booking on an airline that operates out of that concourse. 

Try to avoid layovers. Direct flights will reduce the chance of delays and cancellations and minimize the number of transitions that your child will experience, says Margaret Dyson, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in autism. She also recommends avoiding flights that take off after your child’s bedtime. On major travel booking sites, it’s easy to filter the results by the number of stops and the hours of departure. If you can’t avoid a flight with a layover, be sure to explain to your child in advance that you’ll need to take two planes as part of your adventure.

Do a test run. Airports in Atlanta, Minneapolis-St. Paul, and Kansas City offer travelers the opportunity to schedule a familiarization experience. In Atlanta and Minneapolis-St. Paul, Delta volunteers guide families through TSA security procedures, exploring the terminal, and boarding a plane. The recently remodeled airport in Kansas City opened an “air travel experience room” inside a section of a retired plane so future passengers can practice buckling seatbelts, putting luggage in overhead bins, and opening the lavatory door. Additionally, the Arc Wings for Autism/Wings for All program hosts dozens of events throughout the year at various airports; check thearc.org to see if there’s one near you.

Practice at home. If you can’t take your child to a familiarization experience, you can watch videos so kids “can see and hear how a new experience might pan out,” says Kayla Castro, a special-education teacher and travel agent specializing in trips for families with mental health challenges. It’s a strategy that has helped her teen son who has autism navigate airports as well as attractions they plan to visit on vacation. The Federal Aviation Administration has a well-done “Kids’ First Flight” video on its YouTube channel. Reading children’s books, such as Bearplane! (ages 2–5) and Emma Every Day: First Flight (ages 5–7), may also be helpful. JetBlue and Autism Speaks also partnered on a downloadable travel guide that takes kids through each step in the airport process. Print it out and bring it with you to the airport or create your own visual list of “jobs” your child can focus on when they get to the airport, like getting a bin while going through security or walking through the metal detector. “They’ll know what to expect and can direct their energy in an independent way,” says Cynthia Martin, PsyD, a clinical psychologist who specializes in autism and other neurodevelopmental disorders.

Sign up for the Sunflower Lanyard Program. Staff at more than 240 airports worldwide have been trained to recognize that people who wear this lanyard have a disability that isn’t visible. For information about how to purchase a low-cost lanyard and which U.S. airports participate in the program, go to hdsunflower.com.

Alert your airline. If you’d like to board early with a child who has mental health challenges, it’s best to notify the airline in advance rather than make the request at the gate. If you didn’t do it at the time of booking, go to your airline’s website to find out how to add it to your reservation. Generally speaking, children with mental health disorders will feel more comfortable in a window or middle seat rather than the aisle, where they may be accidentally bumped by other passengers or the beverage cart. If you feel your child may have a better experience boarding toward the end of the process, alert the gate agent and, if possible, send one member of your family in advance to secure overhead luggage space. 

Simplify the security line. Download the MyTSA app on your smartphone, where you can check the current and average wait times to get through the security line. It will give you an idea about what days and times ares the most and least crowded at your airport. Regardless, travel experts recommend that families enroll in TSA PreCheck. Ninety-nine percent of TSA PreCheck passengers wait less than 10 minutes. If adults are enrolled in TSA PreCheck, their children ages 17 and under can join them in the line. Go to TSA.gov/precheck to find out how to enroll; new enrollment costs $78 per adult for 5 years but keep in mind that some credit cards issue a statement credit to help offset the cost. The TSA notes that most applications can be processed in 3 to 5 days. Whether or not you have TSA PreCheck, you can call the TSA Cares helpline at 855-787-2227 about 72 hours before your flight to request special assistance through security.

Strategize luggage. Pack a small backpack for each child to use as a personal item. You might want to include fidget toys, easy-to-contain creative items like Wikki Stix and sticker books, and snacks. In addition, consider designating an adult backpack for the family’s electronics, medications, and a change of clothes per family member. Check most or all of the remainder of the luggage and put an Airtag inside each so you can more easily locate lost luggage.”

Consider the airport size. While regional airports don’t require much walking, those in major cities have a considerable distance from the entrance to the gates. If walking long distances is hard for your child, consider bringing a stroller, which you can check at no charge at the gate. Or you can use children’s luggage that allows for sitting or movement, like a ride-on suitcase or suitcase with a flip-down scooter, says Dr. Martin.

Prepare for delays and cancellations. Before you fly, think about what your options are if your flights don’t take off as planned. Investigate if hotels in the airport itself or on airport property offer “day use” rooms, which could be helpful if you’re faced with a delay of several hours or longer. Be sure to download the app for the airline you’re flying; it’s generally the quickest way to rebook a canceled flight. And visit the U.S. Department of Transportation’s Customer Dashboard for information about what compensation you’re entitled to if there’s a delay or cancellation that isn’t related to weather or something outside of the airline’s control. There, you’ll also learn which airlines commit to seat children ages 13 and under with an accompanying adult at no additional cost.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Getting ready for a road trip

Look for inclusive playgrounds. Make a note of playgrounds that are near your route. If your child is starting to get antsy in the car, a half-hour stop at a playground may head off a major meltdown. To search inclusive playgrounds by state, go to http://www.accessibleplayground.net.

Charge power banks. Most cars just have one charging port — and it always seems like all the passengers run low on battery at the same time. To prevent having to decide  who gets to use the charger, have a few power banks at the ready to hand out when needed.

Research attractions you’ll be passing by. If your family is a member of your local children’s museum, zoo, or aquarium, you might be able to visit others at no cost or a significantly reduced rate through a reciprocity program. Create a list of what might be open for a stop, so you’ll have options at the ready if traffic gets bad or your child gets restless.

Keeping kids happy while traveling 

Explore the airport. If your airport doesn’t have a sensory room, it may have a children’s play area or other fun novelties to see. For instance, in the Houston airport, there’s a large statue of a cow dressed as an astronaut. Once you’re ready to settle down, look for a nearby gate that’s relatively empty. “Stay there for as long as possible so your child can run around. Bring a beach ball — they can easily inflate and deflate to offer gross motor play,” says Dr. Martin.

Play to your child’s interests. If your child loves maps, for instance, print out an airport map in advance and allow the child to help direct you where to go. Or you can use the map as a distraction while waiting in a long line. While you’re in line to check bags, for instance, you might say, “Help me figure out where the train is to our terminal.”

Bring their own seat. If your child is under 40 pounds, bring an FAA-approved car seat for them to use on the plane. “The familiarity of being in a car seat can make the flight less stressful and it will be easier for your child to remain seated,” says Dr. Martin.

Utilize family restrooms. Many airports and rest stops have family restrooms that offer more space. However, they may have loud automatic flushing toilets and hand blowers that could bother a child with sensory issues. “When possible, carry supplies like sticky notes that can be placed over the sensors of toilets and extra wipes or towels to dry off hands,” says Dr. Dyson. 

Relax screen time rules. “We give up rules around devices when traveling,” says Phillipa Martin, who flies several times a year with her 7-year-old daughter who has autism. Carrie McLaren does the same for her special-needs daughter on road trips. “She can watch movies on the iPad the whole time we’re in the car and then I collect the device when we get to our destination,” says McLaren, who writes about family vacation experiences at carrieontravel.com. Dr. Martin suggests creating a set of apps and videos that are only used during travel. “This way, your child will look forward to traveling because theye get access to a set of special games and videos,” she says. Another option: Listening to an audiobook — especially one that’s set in a place you’re headed — is a fun and sneakily educational way to keep kids entertained.

Help them doze off. Nothing passes the time faster than a nap! Try to re-create your child’s pre-nap routine as closely as possible, even if it means changing them into PJs at a reststop, bringing their favorite blankie or eye mask on the trip, snuggling with them until they drift off, or all of the above.Bring their favorite foods. “My daughter is very particular about what she eats, and it’s easiest to carry it with us,” says Martin. While you have more flexibility on a road trip where you can pack a well-insulated cooler, create a snack bag for the flight because airlines have limited options and airport lines are often long. Plus, hangry kids (and parents!) are often extra cranky. 

Choosing and staying at a hotel

Find hotels with staff who have special-needs training. A growing number of hotels and resorts have become Certified Autism Centers. To receive the designation, at least 80 percent of the guest-facing staff at the hotel or resort receive training in autism and sensory disorders from the International Board of Credentialing and Continuing Education Standards. You can search member properties at autismtravel.com.

Prioritize a kitchenette. If your child’s diet is limited, look for a hotel that has a microwave and a fridge in the room. “Minibars don’t usually get as cold as mini-fridges, so you might not be able to safely keep yogurt drinks or cheese in them,” Martin warns. If a mini-fridge doesn’t come standard, you can call the hotel directly to see if they offer them upon request. Better still, book a room that has a mini kitchen as well as a table and chairs so you don’t have to eat every meal out. 

Opt for keyless entry. Being able to head straight to your room and bypass the line at the front desk is being offered by a growing number of hotels, including chains like Hilton and Accor. Take advantage of the tech and save your family another wait.

Pack a reminder of home. Since kids love routines and familiar items, consider bringing a scent you use at home, their own pillowcase, and a favorite bedtime story to help them relax. https://standingabovethecrowd.com/?p=16170

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Psychologist urges honest conversation around suicide in the wake of Marshawn Kneeland's death

By Nicole Nielsen

The death of Cowboys player Marshawn Kneeland by suicide is a tragedy and a reminder that mental health struggles do not discriminate.

Even for athletes or celebrities, suicide continues to claim lives, regardless of fame or success.

Mental illness doesn't spare anyone

"It doesn't matter how rich, or famous, or talented you are," said Dr. Jaya Mathew, psychologist and founder of Wellness 360 in Dallas. "Mental illness kills."

In the wake of Kneeland's death, Mathew said she hopes the heartbreaking news encourages people to have an honest conversation about suicide, which is something many still avoid.

"We avoid it like the plague," she said. "We think almost by saying the word suicide that we're going to cause harm, but we're not. We have to ask the question."

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Suicide statistics show alarming trend

According to the CDC, nearly 49,000 people died by suicide in 2023 — one person every 11 minutes. When a public figure dies by suicide, it can often serve as a turning point for others struggling in silence, particularly men, Mathew said.

"Research does show that more men die by suicide," she said. "High pressure, high stakes, high demand."

NFL has expanded mental health care

While the NFL has taken steps in recent years to expand mental health resources for players, including on-site clinicians, Mathew said loved ones still play a vital role in recognizing the warning signs, such as hopelessness, giving away possessions or sudden isolation. A family member can also offer a sympathetic ear and try to connect them with help.

"It gives them a moment to say someone is paying attention," she said. "If you know someone with lethal drugs or guns, please put them away safely and securely, at a distance."

A call to check on others

Mathew said she hopes Kneeland's death becomes a catalyst for awareness and prevention.

"Let this be a call to action," she said. "As we sit in this sort of collective grief that a young life was lost, let's make a commitment to checking in on one another and asking these questions about mental illness and mental health."

If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline for free help.

https://standingabovethecrowd.com/james-donaldson-on-mental-health-psychologist-urges-honest-conversation-around-suicide-in-the-wake-of-marshawn-kneelands-death/

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Entertainment duo the Kessler twins die by assisted suicide, aged 89

By Issy Ronald, Stephanie Halasz, Sharon Braithwaite

Alice Kessler and Ellen Kessler

EDITOR’S NOTE:  If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, help is available. Dial or text 988 or visit 988lifeline.org for free and confidential support.

Alice and Ellen Kessler, the German twins who rose to fame in the 1950s as a variety entertainment duo, have died at the age of 89 by joint assisted suicide, advocacy organization the German Society for Humane Dying (DGHS) said on Tuesday.

Local police confirmed to CNN on Tuesday that “there was a deployment yesterday lunchtime in Gruenwald” – the leafy suburb of Munich where the twins lived – but did not say the reason for that deployment.

The twins contacted the DGHS, which provides access to lawyers and doctors, more than a year ago and became members, the organization told CNN on Tuesday.

“The decisive factor is likely to have been the desire to die together on a specific date,” DGHS spokesperson Wega Wetzel told CNN, adding that she wasn’t aware of the precise reasons given by each woman.

“Their desire to die was well-considered, long-standing, and free from any psychiatric crisis,” Wetzel said.

During an interview with Italian newspaper Corriere della Sera last year, the twins said they wanted “to go away together on the same day.” “The idea that one of us might get it first is very hard to bear,” they added.

They wished to have their ashes interred in the same urn too, alongside their mother Elsa and dog Yello, Ellen Kessler told German tabloid Bild last year.

Assisted dying, under certain circumstances, is legal in Germany after the country’s top court ruled in 2020 that an individual has the right to end their life and to seek help from a third party if they aren’t subject to external influences.

How to get help
- Help is available if you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts or mental health matters.
- In the US: Call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
- Globally: The International Association for Suicide Prevention and Befrienders Worldwide have contact information for crisis centers around the world.
-

With their blonde, coiffed hair, long legs and talent for both singing and dancing, the Kessler twins embodied the aesthetic of the 1950s and 60s showgirl.

As children, they attended classical ballet school before fleeing East Germany in 1952 to pursue dance. Shortly after, the twins began their careers at the Lido in Paris, a venue known for its cabaret performances, but they quickly transcended that world.

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Alice and Ellen Kessler reached the height of their fame in the 1950s and 1960s. 

They represented Germany at the 1959 Eurovision Song Contest, appeared several times on “The Ed Sullivan Show,” once featured on the cover of Life magazine, and moved in circles populated by the biggest stars of that era like Fred Astaire, Frank Sinatra, Elvis Presley and Rock Hudson.

“The Ed Sullivan Show” posted a tribute to the Kessler twins on social media, remembering them as “dazzling stars, true legends, and sisters whose grace, charm, and magic will shine forever.”

Fame in Italy

The sisters soon became stars in Italy too. They made history as the first showgirls to appear on Italian television and the first female stars to show their legs on screen, according to Eurovision. However, they had to wear opaque tights due to the strict Christian conservative values of the time, state broadcaster RAI said. Nevertheless, their legs were dubbed “the legs of the country.”

And when they posed naked for the Italian edition of Playboy in 1976, it sold out in three hours, according to Eurovision’s website.

They appeared in Italian movies and in theater, achieving such widespread fame there that state broadcaster RAI released a detailed plan on Tuesday of the ways in which it would cover their deaths, both on the news and by rerunning old television shows starring them.

The sisters’ entertainment careers continued long after the era of the showgirl had waned. As well as making guest appearances on German television, they starred in a musical that played in Berlin, Munich and Vienna from 2015 to 2016.

Their lives were intertwined beyond just their shared career. They lived in “two mirrored, connecting apartments,” the sisters told Corriere della Sera last year, and would meet every day at noon for lunch.

The twins were born in a village that today belongs to Grimma, a town in Saxony.

Tino Kießig, the mayor of Grimma, said in a statement Monday that the town “mourns the loss of these two world-renowned personalities.”

https://standingabovethecrowd.com/james-donaldson-on-mental-health-entertainment-duo-the-kessler-twins-die-by-assisted-suicide-aged-89/

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Genes may predict suicide risk in depression

Depression in young adulthood has a stronger hereditary component and is associated with a higher risk of suicide attempts than depression that begins later in life, according to a new study published in Nature Genetics by researchers at Karolinska Institutet, among others.

“We hope that genetic information will be able to help healthcare professionals identify people at high risk of suicide, who may need more support and closer follow-up,” says Lu Yi, senior researcher at the Department of Medical Epidemiology and Biostatistics, Karolinska Institutet, and one of the study’s corresponding authors.

Depression is a common mental illness that can affect people at different stages of life. The new study shows that depression that begins before the age of 25 has a stronger hereditary component than depression that begins late in life.

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Major genetic differences

The study, based on medical records and genetic data from over 150,000 people with depression and 360,000 controls in Denmark, Sweden, Norway, Finland and Estonia, compared genetics and risk of suicide attempts in people who had their first depression before the age of 25 (early onset) and those diagnosed after the age of 50 (late onset).

The genetic differences between the groups were large. The researchers identified twelve genetic regions that were linked to early onset and two regions that were linked to late onset. One in four people with a high genetic risk of early-onset depression attempted suicide within ten years of diagnosis, which was about twice as many as people with a low genetic risk.

“We show that early-onset depression has partly different genetic causes than depression that affects older individuals and that the risk of suicide attempts is increased,” says Lu Yi. “This is an important step towards precision medicine in psychiatry, where treatment and preventive measures are tailored to each individual.” 

Suicide prevention in healthcare

The researchers now plan to investigate how the genetic differences are related to brain development, stress and life experiences, and whether genetic risk profiles can be used in suicide prevention in healthcare.

https://standingabovethecrowd.com/james-donaldson-on-mental-health-genes-may-predict-suicide-risk-in-depression/

Strategies to help families of children with autism, ADHD, anxiety, and other challenges sidestep common sources of stress

Writer: Karen Cicero

Clinical Experts: Michelle Thirkield, PsyD , Nechama Sorscher, PhD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDmenwIA0K4

What You'll Learn

- How do I create routines for my child during the holidays?

- How can I prevent meltdowns for my child at holiday gatherings?

- How do I make holiday travel less stressful for my kid?

- Quick Read

- Full Article

- Interrupted routines

- Anxiety around extended family and visitors

- Picky eaters

- Sensory issues

- Traveling with kids

- Giving gifts

From Thanksgiving to New Year’s, holiday excitement can be overwhelming for some children, especially those with autism, ADHD, sensory challenges, or anxiety. Here are some ways to make the season more enjoyable for everyone.

- If breaks in routines are a problem for your child, give them a few weeks’ warning before the start of school vacation. Sign kids up for camps or library story times and create a written or visual schedule for the break.

- It can help to host holiday events at home, where children feel more comfortable.

- Discuss expectations with kids about proper behavior at a party.

- For kids with social anxiety, give them time to adjust after you arrive at someone else’s house before they need to greet people.

- If large gatherings overwhelm your child, ask the host in advance for a quiet spot your kid can retreat to when needed.

- For picky eaters, bringing familiar foods to parties can ease mealtime stress.

- For kids with sensory issues, pick holiday clothes in soft fabrics and that don’t have tags.

- If you’re traveling, driving may be preferable to long car rides. It can be manageable with planned breaks and engaging activities.

- You might role-play opening gifts so kids can practice saying “thank you” even if it’s not what they hoped for.

- Guide relatives on appropriate presents — the more specific the better — focusing more on experiences than physical gifts.

From Thanksgiving to New Year’s, expectations run high for holiday celebrations and cherished family traditions. But all that excitement and the break from routines may overwhelm some children, including those who have sensory challenges, ADHD, anxiety, or autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Making celebrations kid-friendly can take some adjustments.

Chantelle French always imagined that when she had kids, she’d continue to sleep over at her parents’ house on Christmas Eve along with other relatives. But her daughter, Charli, who was diagnosed with autism at age 2, was so miserable spending the night away from home that French decided to rethink the tradition.

“I realized that we have a different kind of family, and we had to say ‘no’ to some things, even if it meant breaking tradition,” recalls French, who also has a 5-year-old daughter with ASD. “I cried a lot about it, but I think we’ve gotten used to having Christmas morning at home before heading to my parents’ house in the afternoon. My whole family has done a great job of adjusting to this.”

For parents of children with behavioral challenges, there’s another layer of holiday stress on top of the decorating, cooking, and shopping. “During this time, we hear more often from parents who are struggling with setting limits and seeing more behavioral difficulties,” says Michelle Thirkield, PsyD, a psychologist in the Anxiety Disorders Center at the Child Mind Institute.

According to Dr. Thirkield, the “most wonderful time of the year” unsettles children for a variety of reasons. Large gatherings tend to overwhelm those with autism and social anxiety. Bright lights, dressy clothes, and loud music can feel intolerable for children with sensory processing issues. And a long winter recess from school upsets students who crave routine and structure. Add to that uncommon foods (hello, noodle kugel) from cooks who don’t take “no thanks” for an answer, and it’s a recipe for a meltdown.

For each of these stressful holiday situations and others, experts and experienced parents provide their favorite tips. Even though the seasonal festivities with kids who have challenges may look different than the glamorized versions on your Instagram feed, they can be every bit as joyful.

Interrupted routines

My child lives for their routine, but we’ve got a two-week winter break coming up. How are we going to survive?

Plan in advance. “Think about how you can add a sense of structure to the break,” Dr. Thirkield says. “For instance, you could research what day camp programs are offered in your area during holiday break and sign up for one that works for your schedule and interests.” Local aquariums, science centers, gymnastic centers, youth theaters, and children’s museums may offer an interest-specific day-camp options, while those at the neighborhood YMCA or JCC tend to keep kids busy all day long with a variety of activities ranging from sports to crafts. If you don’t want a full-day program, you could look into story time at the library or a drop-in program at a museum where you have a family membership (some libraries also have museum passes you can borrow). “Going to the playground or taking a walk around at a certain time every day also helps fulfill the desire for structure,” Dr. Thirkield says.

Give a heads-up. Don’t wait until the first day of break to tell your child that school will be closed for the next two weeks. And you definitely don’t want them hearing it for the first time at school when their teachers say, “See you next year!” Around the second week of December, explain when and why school is closed in a way that is most developmentally appropriate to your child — and some of your holiday stress may be prevented.

Create a written or visual schedule for break. “Share it with your child multiple times,” suggests Nechama Sorscher, PhD, author of the forthcomingYour Neurodiverse Child: How to Help Kids with Learning, Attention, and Neurocognitive Challenges Thrive. “You want to be sure they understand and are prepared for any plan you might have made.” While some kids may enjoy surprises (“Guess what, we’re seeing the lights at the zoo tonight!”), those with autism can react poorly when activities are sprung on them. “As a constant reminder of what’s coming up, we post the schedule on the fridge so our kids can refer to it anytime,” says Alicia Trautwein, director of the blog The Mom Kind and mom of four children, ages 10 to 22, with various challenges.

Stick with school bedtimes as much as possible. Eventually, break is going to be over, and it will be more difficult to get back in the groove if the kids have been consistently going to bed several hours later than usual, says Dr. Thirkield. Of course, there can be one-time exceptions, like staying up until midnight on New Year’s Eve.

Anxiety around extended family and visitors

I’m worried that my child is going to have a meltdown during a holiday gathering at a relative’s house — it’s happened before, and I felt judged.

Give your kids home field advantage. After some trial and error (with the emphasis on error), Trautwein discovered that it was easier to host Thanksgiving than travel for it. “Sure it was literally two days of nonstop cooking, but I knew I’d have what the kids would eat and they’d have safe spaces in the house to hang out at when they felt overwhelmed.” To trim prep time, assign guests a dish to bring or order some premade sides from a supermarket or restaurant.

Plan ahead. Shannon Rosa, who has two children with ADHD and one with autism, hosts Thanksgiving and Christmas, but she also finds a way to visit friends and family for more casual post-Christmas festivities. Planning ahead has saved the day on more than one occasion, she says  “Tell the host ahead of time — even when you’re accepting the invitation — that your kids get easily overwhelmed and burned out, and ask where in their house can they retreat to if they’re feeling that way,” Rosa says. Then, of course, alert the kids to where the safe spot is. 

Time it right. Don’t arrive at a gathering immediately after a long car ride. Instead, research a nearby park where kids can stretch their legs for 30 minutes or so, and then make your entrance when the kids are more refreshed.

Discuss expectations with your kids. Whether you’re having company or visiting, tell your kids what you expect from them based on their capabilities. “You might tell an older child, for instance, that you’d like them to visit with guests for 30 minutes and then they can feel free to do their own thing,” says  Dr. Thirkield. If some kids can only muster, a “hi” and “bye,” that’s OK, too.

Give time to warm up. Especially if children with social anxiety aren’t on their own turf, allow them to settle in — and hang onto their toy or tablet — before they’re thrust into greetings from relatives that they haven’t seen in a year.  Also, don’t require your child to hug relatives if they don’t feel comfortable doing so. A high five, fist bump, or wave acknowledges the family member, too.

Build in time between visits. If one day is very active with lots of company or visiting, make sure the next day is restful and quiet, especially for kids with autism. “Their brains can get overwhelmed and cause autistic burnout, when they withdraw completely,” says Dr. Sorscher.

Picky eaters

Food is the love language in my family — and my child is very sensitive to textures and has a limited diet.

Loop in family members. “Tell the host and some guests in advance that your child has eating challenges, and you’re working on them,” says Dr. Thirkield. “Doing so will hopefully make them supporters and reduce the likelihood of insensitive, hurtful comments.” French warns that children, including nonverbal ones, are aware when relatives are talking about them, so shut down any conversation at the get-together about your child’s eating habits.

Bring your child’s food. A gracious host may offer to make something special for your picky eater (“No problem, I could bake a mac ‘n cheese!”), but feel free to turn down the offer if it won’t work (“Thank you! But he really only likes a certain brand, so if we could just use the microwave to heat up a dish I bring, I’d appreciate it!”) A bento-type box filled with finger foods — like crackers, cheese cubes, and grapes — work particularly well to bring to a guest’s house. If you live nearby, feeding picky eaters at home first is another kid-friendly holiday strategy. Consider it a win (and praise them) if they nibble on anything else, even if they didn’t like it. (“I’m proud that you tasted your aunt’s pumpkin bread, even though you didn’t like it this time.”)

Give kids a comfortable space. Being squished at a noisy Thanksgiving table makes some kids with challenges too uncomfortable to eat or engage in any way. Set up a kids’ table with fidget toys and favors. You could also consider bringing your child’s favorite plate and cup.

Sensory issues

I see kids dressed up in their matching holiday clothes, and I wish that could be us. My kids would never wear anything like that!

Choose a color scheme. “We did matching clothes for three years, and when that wasn’t working, we shifted to a red-and-green theme. It still looked festive, but each of the kids could select what was comfortable for them,” says Trautwein. If you celebrate Hanukkah, consider a combination of blue, white, and silver.

Focus on soft fabrics and tagless items. “That’s pretty much all my kids wear,” says French, who started her business Forever French Baby by making kids’ pajamas out of soft bamboo and Spandex when her daughter wouldn’t tolerate wearing any clothes.

Give kids a say. If your child is old enough, show them a few outfits online and ask them for their preference. Dr. Thirkield adds, “Finding the middle path in a way, with something that’s holiday-esque and that kids helped us pick out, is a great solution.”

Add a soft layer. For dress clothes that kids do like but aren’t the softest, add a T-shirt underlayer. “That’s been how we’ve been able to do costumes,” French adds. But try to avoid clothes that may make kids feel hot, which may further aggravate kids with sensory challenges and cause holiday stress. For instance, be satisfied if your child will wear a cute dress — and don’t push it by attempting the fancy coat. Leggings under a dress are a more comfortable alternative to tights or bare legs are fine in warmer climates. For boys, a bow tie may cause less sensory issues than a necktie.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Traveling with kids

Most of our family and friends live out of town, so we’re going to be traveling a bunch this year. I’m worried it’s going to be a nightmare.

Drive when you can. For kids with challenges, particularly autism and sensory sensitivities, a 10-hour drive is usually better than a 90-minute plane ride — especially if the drive is broken up into two days, says Dr. Sorscher. “Kids with autism typically do surprisingly well in the car because they don’t mind boring, repetitive tasks,” she says. “Planes are more challenging because there’s a lot of waiting, transitioning, and unfamiliar noises.” If you do need to fly, look at these tips to make the airport a smoother experience.

Look for bonding moments. If you’re driving together for a long period, use it as an opportunity to create traditions, suggests Dr. Thirkield. Mutually agree on a car game to play before you leave. For instance, you could create a visual scavenger hunt game card (or find a printable online) with items like an inflatable snowman, bakery, car with antlers, and other holiday-themed objects you might encounter on the road.

Pack distractions and favorite snacks. “For each child, we would pack crayons, coloring books, mini action figures or dolls, and other small fun toys in a bucket that they could easily reach,” says Trautwein. It’s also fine to relax screen-time rules for these special occasions, assures Dr. Thirkield. While some kids may be happiest watching their favorite movie over and over, you can download something new for them to enjoy.

Extend bathroom breaks. Allow kids to run around a safe grassy area at rest stops to blow off some steam before the next leg of the journey.

Giving gifts

My child never has that jumping for joy, viral video reaction to gifts. Sometimes they don’t even care to open them, other times they’ll tell the gift giver it’s not what they wanted or liked.

Role-play opening presents. For kids who are into gifts, role-play saying “thank you” to the gift giver, even if it’s not what they hoped for. Tell your child that if they receive something that they don’t want, they can discuss with you privately at home.

Guide relatives to preferences. Telling grandparents to buy “something soccer-related” isn’t enough to go on. Parents reported that relatives appreciated a specific link to an item that your child may have seen at the store or in a catalog rather than general preferences. 

Prioritize experiences over gifts. Especially when kids are young, tell relatives that a family membership to the local children’s museum, tickets to a sensory-friendly event, or another experience would be greatly preferred over a wrapped gift that your child may show no interest in opening. “My kids didn’t open a single holiday gift for years,” says French. “But it gets better with each passing year, and you start your own traditions.  At some point, you don’t even wish it were different anymore.” https://standingabovethecrowd.com/?p=16176

James Donaldson on Mental Health - 24 Ways to Make the Holidays Kid-Friendly

Strategies to help families of children with autism, ADHD, anxiety, and other challenges sidestep common sources of stress

Writer: Karen Cicero

Clinical Experts: Michelle Thirkield, PsyD , Nechama Sorscher, PhD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDmenwIA0K4

What You'll Learn

- How do I create routines for my child during the holidays?
- How can I prevent meltdowns for my child at holiday gatherings?
- How do I make holiday travel less stressful for my kid?
- Quick Read
- Full Article
- Interrupted routines
- Anxiety around extended family and visitors
- Picky eaters
- Sensory issues
- Traveling with kids
- Giving gifts

From Thanksgiving to New Year’s, holiday excitement can be overwhelming for some children, especially those with autism, ADHD, sensory challenges, or anxiety. Here are some ways to make the season more enjoyable for everyone.

- If breaks in routines are a problem for your child, give them a few weeks’ warning before the start of school vacation. Sign kids up for camps or library story times and create a written or visual schedule for the break.
- It can help to host holiday events at home, where children feel more comfortable.
- Discuss expectations with kids about proper behavior at a party.
- For kids with social anxiety, give them time to adjust after you arrive at someone else’s house before they need to greet people.
- If large gatherings overwhelm your child, ask the host in advance for a quiet spot your kid can retreat to when needed.
- For picky eaters, bringing familiar foods to parties can ease mealtime stress.
- For kids with sensory issues, pick holiday clothes in soft fabrics and that don’t have tags.
- If you’re traveling, driving may be preferable to long car rides. It can be manageable with planned breaks and engaging activities.
- You might role-play opening gifts so kids can practice saying “thank you” even if it’s not what they hoped for.
- Guide relatives on appropriate presents — the more specific the better — focusing more on experiences than physical gifts.

From Thanksgiving to New Year’s, expectations run high for holiday celebrations and cherished family traditions. But all that excitement and the break from routines may overwhelm some children, including those who have sensory challenges, ADHD, anxiety, or autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Making celebrations kid-friendly can take some adjustments.

Chantelle French always imagined that when she had kids, she’d continue to sleep over at her parents’ house on Christmas Eve along with other relatives. But her daughter, Charli, who was diagnosed with autism at age 2, was so miserable spending the night away from home that French decided to rethink the tradition.

“I realized that we have a different kind of family, and we had to say ‘no’ to some things, even if it meant breaking tradition,” recalls French, who also has a 5-year-old daughter with ASD. “I cried a lot about it, but I think we’ve gotten used to having Christmas morning at home before heading to my parents’ house in the afternoon. My whole family has done a great job of adjusting to this.”

For parents of children with behavioral challenges, there’s another layer of holiday stress on top of the decorating, cooking, and shopping. “During this time, we hear more often from parents who are struggling with setting limits and seeing more behavioral difficulties,” says Michelle Thirkield, PsyD, a psychologist in the Anxiety Disorders Center at the Child Mind Institute.

According to Dr. Thirkield, the “most wonderful time of the year” unsettles children for a variety of reasons. Large gatherings tend to overwhelm those with autism and social anxiety. Bright lights, dressy clothes, and loud music can feel intolerable for children with sensory processing issues. And a long winter recess from school upsets students who crave routine and structure. Add to that uncommon foods (hello, noodle kugel) from cooks who don’t take “no thanks” for an answer, and it’s a recipe for a meltdown.

For each of these stressful holiday situations and others, experts and experienced parents provide their favorite tips. Even though the seasonal festivities with kids who have challenges may look different than the glamorized versions on your Instagram feed, they can be every bit as joyful.

Interrupted routines

My child lives for their routine, but we’ve got a two-week winter break coming up. How are we going to survive?

Plan in advance. “Think about how you can add a sense of structure to the break,” Dr. Thirkield says. “For instance, you could research what day camp programs are offered in your area during holiday break and sign up for one that works for your schedule and interests.” Local aquariums, science centers, gymnastic centers, youth theaters, and children’s museums may offer an interest-specific day-camp options, while those at the neighborhood YMCA or JCC tend to keep kids busy all day long with a variety of activities ranging from sports to crafts. If you don’t want a full-day program, you could look into story time at the library or a drop-in program at a museum where you have a family membership (some libraries also have museum passes you can borrow). “Going to the playground or taking a walk around at a certain time every day also helps fulfill the desire for structure,” Dr. Thirkield says.

Give a heads-up. Don’t wait until the first day of break to tell your child that school will be closed for the next two weeks. And you definitely don’t want them hearing it for the first time at school when their teachers say, “See you next year!” Around the second week of December, explain when and why school is closed in a way that is most developmentally appropriate to your child — and some of your holiday stress may be prevented.

Create a written or visual schedule for break. “Share it with your child multiple times,” suggests Nechama Sorscher, PhD, author of the forthcomingYour Neurodiverse Child: How to Help Kids with Learning, Attention, and Neurocognitive Challenges Thrive. “You want to be sure they understand and are prepared for any plan you might have made.” While some kids may enjoy surprises (“Guess what, we’re seeing the lights at the zoo tonight!”), those with autism can react poorly when activities are sprung on them. “As a constant reminder of what’s coming up, we post the schedule on the fridge so our kids can refer to it anytime,” says Alicia Trautwein, director of the blog The Mom Kind and mom of four children, ages 10 to 22, with various challenges.

Stick with school bedtimes as much as possible. Eventually, break is going to be over, and it will be more difficult to get back in the groove if the kids have been consistently going to bed several hours later than usual, says Dr. Thirkield. Of course, there can be one-time exceptions, like staying up until midnight on New Year’s Eve.

Anxiety around extended family and visitors

I’m worried that my child is going to have a meltdown during a holiday gathering at a relative’s house — it’s happened before, and I felt judged.

Give your kids home field advantage. After some trial and error (with the emphasis on error), Trautwein discovered that it was easier to host Thanksgiving than travel for it. “Sure it was literally two days of nonstop cooking, but I knew I’d have what the kids would eat and they’d have safe spaces in the house to hang out at when they felt overwhelmed.” To trim prep time, assign guests a dish to bring or order some premade sides from a supermarket or restaurant.

Plan ahead. Shannon Rosa, who has two children with ADHD and one with autism, hosts Thanksgiving and Christmas, but she also finds a way to visit friends and family for more casual post-Christmas festivities. Planning ahead has saved the day on more than one occasion, she says  “Tell the host ahead of time — even when you’re accepting the invitation — that your kids get easily overwhelmed and burned out, and ask where in their house can they retreat to if they’re feeling that way,” Rosa says. Then, of course, alert the kids to where the safe spot is. 

Time it right. Don’t arrive at a gathering immediately after a long car ride. Instead, research a nearby park where kids can stretch their legs for 30 minutes or so, and then make your entrance when the kids are more refreshed.

Discuss expectations with your kids. Whether you’re having company or visiting, tell your kids what you expect from them based on their capabilities. “You might tell an older child, for instance, that you’d like them to visit with guests for 30 minutes and then they can feel free to do their own thing,” says  Dr. Thirkield. If some kids can only muster, a “hi” and “bye,” that’s OK, too.

Give time to warm up. Especially if children with social anxiety aren’t on their own turf, allow them to settle in — and hang onto their toy or tablet — before they’re thrust into greetings from relatives that they haven’t seen in a year.  Also, don’t require your child to hug relatives if they don’t feel comfortable doing so. A high five, fist bump, or wave acknowledges the family member, too.

Build in time between visits. If one day is very active with lots of company or visiting, make sure the next day is restful and quiet, especially for kids with autism. “Their brains can get overwhelmed and cause autistic burnout, when they withdraw completely,” says Dr. Sorscher.

Picky eaters

Food is the love language in my family — and my child is very sensitive to textures and has a limited diet.

Loop in family members. “Tell the host and some guests in advance that your child has eating challenges, and you’re working on them,” says Dr. Thirkield. “Doing so will hopefully make them supporters and reduce the likelihood of insensitive, hurtful comments.” French warns that children, including nonverbal ones, are aware when relatives are talking about them, so shut down any conversation at the get-together about your child’s eating habits.

Bring your child’s food. A gracious host may offer to make something special for your picky eater (“No problem, I could bake a mac ‘n cheese!”), but feel free to turn down the offer if it won’t work (“Thank you! But he really only likes a certain brand, so if we could just use the microwave to heat up a dish I bring, I’d appreciate it!”) A bento-type box filled with finger foods — like crackers, cheese cubes, and grapes — work particularly well to bring to a guest’s house. If you live nearby, feeding picky eaters at home first is another kid-friendly holiday strategy. Consider it a win (and praise them) if they nibble on anything else, even if they didn’t like it. (“I’m proud that you tasted your aunt’s pumpkin bread, even though you didn’t like it this time.”)

Give kids a comfortable space. Being squished at a noisy Thanksgiving table makes some kids with challenges too uncomfortable to eat or engage in any way. Set up a kids’ table with fidget toys and favors. You could also consider bringing your child’s favorite plate and cup.

Sensory issues

I see kids dressed up in their matching holiday clothes, and I wish that could be us. My kids would never wear anything like that!

Choose a color scheme. “We did matching clothes for three years, and when that wasn’t working, we shifted to a red-and-green theme. It still looked festive, but each of the kids could select what was comfortable for them,” says Trautwein. If you celebrate Hanukkah, consider a combination of blue, white, and silver.

Focus on soft fabrics and tagless items. “That’s pretty much all my kids wear,” says French, who started her business Forever French Baby by making kids’ pajamas out of soft bamboo and Spandex when her daughter wouldn’t tolerate wearing any clothes.

Give kids a say. If your child is old enough, show them a few outfits online and ask them for their preference. Dr. Thirkield adds, “Finding the middle path in a way, with something that’s holiday-esque and that kids helped us pick out, is a great solution.”

Add a soft layer. For dress clothes that kids do like but aren’t the softest, add a T-shirt underlayer. “That’s been how we’ve been able to do costumes,” French adds. But try to avoid clothes that may make kids feel hot, which may further aggravate kids with sensory challenges and cause holiday stress. For instance, be satisfied if your child will wear a cute dress — and don’t push it by attempting the fancy coat. Leggings under a dress are a more comfortable alternative to tights or bare legs are fine in warmer climates. For boys, a bow tie may cause less sensory issues than a necktie.

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Traveling with kids

Most of our family and friends live out of town, so we’re going to be traveling a bunch this year. I’m worried it’s going to be a nightmare.

Drive when you can. For kids with challenges, particularly autism and sensory sensitivities, a 10-hour drive is usually better than a 90-minute plane ride — especially if the drive is broken up into two days, says Dr. Sorscher. “Kids with autism typically do surprisingly well in the car because they don’t mind boring, repetitive tasks,” she says. “Planes are more challenging because there’s a lot of waiting, transitioning, and unfamiliar noises.” If you do need to fly, look at these tips to make the airport a smoother experience.

Look for bonding moments. If you’re driving together for a long period, use it as an opportunity to create traditions, suggests Dr. Thirkield. Mutually agree on a car game to play before you leave. For instance, you could create a visual scavenger hunt game card (or find a printable online) with items like an inflatable snowman, bakery, car with antlers, and other holiday-themed objects you might encounter on the road.

Pack distractions and favorite snacks. “For each child, we would pack crayons, coloring books, mini action figures or dolls, and other small fun toys in a bucket that they could easily reach,” says Trautwein. It’s also fine to relax screen-time rules for these special occasions, assures Dr. Thirkield. While some kids may be happiest watching their favorite movie over and over, you can download something new for them to enjoy.

Extend bathroom breaks. Allow kids to run around a safe grassy area at rest stops to blow off some steam before the next leg of the journey.

Giving gifts

My child never has that jumping for joy, viral video reaction to gifts. Sometimes they don’t even care to open them, other times they’ll tell the gift giver it’s not what they wanted or liked.

Role-play opening presents. For kids who are into gifts, role-play saying “thank you” to the gift giver, even if it’s not what they hoped for.

https://standingabovethecrowd.com/james-donaldson-on-mental-health-24-ways-to-make-the-holidays-kid-friendly-2/

 By Karen Lucrece

LINCOLN, Neb. (KLKN) — 45-year-old Eleazar Oceguera committed suicide in the back of a police cruiser on Sunday.

It happened in a matter of minutes, but the impact will last much longer.

“We are in a mental health crisis,” said Amy Borcheres, vice president of Outpatient at Centerpointe.

Mental health experts said this is a painful reminder that help needs to reach people before they’re in crisis.

“We will never have enough co-responders based on the number of calls for service we get from community members struggling,” said Police Chief Michon Morrow.

While investigators continue to piece together what happened, Borcheres said it highlights a growing need: Better access to mental health support.

“We do have, unfortunately, limited resources in the community, and there are a lot that people can pull together for things,” she said. “But sometimes people don’t know what they are, they aren’t aware of them, and it’s hard to get into a lot of places at the same time.”

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Centerpointe works closely with people facing mental illness, addiction, and homelessness — providing resources before pain turns into tragedy.

“Approach them with care, approach them with lack of judgment, and recognize this is something that everyone goes through,” Borcheres said. “And just identifying like ‘Hey, it seems like something is going on, is there any way I can help?'”

Experts said men in their 40s and 50s face some of the highest suicide rates in the country — often hiding their struggles out of fear or stigma.

“There is help out there, you’re not alone, there are people out there that care about you and support you, and though this feels really, really heavy right now, it can get better,” Borcheres said.

If you or someone you know is struggling, help is here.

You can call or text 988 or call (402)475-6695 to reach the suicide and crisis lifeline anytime, day or night. https://standingabovethecrowd.com/?p=16162