Support related to suicide exists, but it's not always easy to find

By John Bateson

THE BASICS

- Suicide Risk Factors and Signs

- Take our Depression Test

- Find a therapist near me

Key points

- Suicide deaths tend to be traumatic for family members and friends.

- Support groups for those who survive a suicide attempt or parents whose children attempt suicide are rare.

- An hour-long video, “Supporting Parents," is one new resource.

Many crisis centers that operate 24-hour suicide prevention hotlines also provide grief counseling to people who are mourning a death. That’s because many people who have lost a loved one to suicide are more at risk for suicide themselves.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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The crisis center I directed provided individual counseling and also operated multiple grief support groups. Four of the groups were for survivors of suicide—parents who lost children, youths who lost parents, individuals who lost partners, and others who lost siblings or friends because of suicide. Typically, there were 15 to 20 people in each of these four groups, although sometimes the number was greater, and we needed extra facilitators.

The first night of each group was memorable for one main reason. Upon entering the room, many people gasped. They couldn’t believe that so many other people were there, that so many others had experienced the same tragedy they had experienced, the suicide of a loved one. Until that moment, they felt completely alone.

Our grief counseling director, who was a nationally recognized death educator, started every first night the same way: “I’m so sorry that you’re here, and I’m so glad that you’re here.”

Anytime someone dies, it can be traumatic for survivors. Suicide deaths tend to be the most traumatic of all because of the guilt and stigma attached to them. Survivors think back on every interaction they had with the deceased, especially recent ones, questioning what they did or didn’t do—all of the “what ifs.” Did they miss warning signs? Did they take something the decedent said too lightly? Were they slow to act or did they not act at all, even in the face of what, in retrospect, was ominous?

Support groups for people who have attempted suicide are rare. A few agencies operate them, but they are hard to find, in part because leading this kind of group is daunting. Not only is everyone in it at high risk of suicide, but many suicidal people have emotional needs that can be overwhelming for the facilitator.

Support groups for parents whose children have attempted suicide are even rarer. More often than not, parents seek individual counseling for their child and/or counseling for the family with a private therapist. This, too, can be challenging to find, however, because many clinicians don’t have experience or aren’t comfortable providing this kind of therapy.

One new resource is an hour-long video developed by Zero Suicide titled Supporting Parents. It’s specifically for parents whose child has attempted suicide, and recognizes the fears, anxieties, and questions parents have; the helpless feelings they experience; and the fact that they might feel alone in this, but are not. Many others, sadly, are in the same position.

Having a loved one die or attempt suicide is an isolating experience, but a person doesn’t have to be alone. Help exists.

Zero Suicide is a global health care initiative whose goal isn’t just to prevent suicides but to end them. For anyone who is worried about the safety of a loved one, the only acceptable number when it comes to suicide is zero. Four other resources are noteworthy: The national, three-digit Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (988) connects callers seamlessly to the nearest, certified crisis center so that they can receive immediate, free, confidential counseling. The Crisis Text Line (741741) does the same thing for texters. The Trevor Project (1-888-488-7386) provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning youth under the age of 25. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) has local chapters throughout the country and provides a variety of support services for mental health consumers and family members.

To find a therapist near you, visit the Psychology Today Therapy Directory. https://standingabovethecrowd.com/?p=16397

James Donaldson on Mental Health - How to Help Your Child Get Motivated in School

Strategies you can use to help kids work up to their potential

Writer: Danielle Cohen

Clinical Experts: Laura Phillips, PsyD, ABPdN , Ken Schuster, PsyD , Kristin Carothers, PhD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-cue8RaVLg

What You'll Learn

- Why do some kids have trouble getting motivated in school?
- How can parents help their children try harder in school?
- Quick Read
- Full Article
- Get involved
- Use reinforcement
- Reward effort rather than outcome
- Help them see the big picture
- Let them make mistakes
- Get outside help
- Make the teacher your ally
- Get support for yourself

It’s common for kids to lack motivation in school. Sometimes, this happens because the child has ADHD, anxiety, social challenges, or a learning disability. But other times, kids without a diagnosable problem still have trouble living up to their potential in school. Here are a few ways that parents can encourage kids to put in more effort at school.

Start by showing kids that you care about their schoolwork. Check in with them about how classes are going. Let them know that you’re there if they need homework help. Ask what they’re learning and what they like (and don’t like) about the assignments. With older kids, be sure to give them space, too. If they sense that you’re pressuring them, they might end up feeling resentful and less motivated.

Using positive reinforcement helps. You don’t need to give kids big rewards, but even small ones like a high five or a few extra minutes of screen time can make a difference. It’s also important to praise effort, not results. For example, praise your child for finishing a tough assignment or taking a class that might be hard. Nobody gets top grades all the time, so make sure your child knows you don’t expect perfection.

You can also bring in reinforcements if schoolwork is becoming a source of conflict for you and your child. You could hire an older student at your child’s school or a nearby college to help monitor homework and ease stress on the family. Talking to your child’s teacher can also give you insight into their behavior and help you work as a team to encourage them.

Finally, be sure to keep tabs on your own feelings. If you’re getting very frustrated or angry about your child’s school performance, a therapist or support group can help.

If you have a child who is struggling in school and doesn’t seem to be motivated to make an effort, the first thing you want to do is explore whether there is some obstacle getting in their way. Learning issues, social challenges, attention or emotional problems can all cause kids to disengage academically.

But not all kids who are underperforming in school — clearly not living up to their potential — have a diagnosable problem. And there are a number of things parents can do to help motivate kids to try harder.

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Get involved

As a parent or caregiver, your presence in the academic life of your child is crucial to their commitment to work. Do homework with them, and let them know that you’re available to answer questions. Get in the habit of asking them about what they learned in school, and generally engage them academically. By demonstrating your interest in your child’s school life, you’re showing them school can be exciting and interesting. This is especially effective with young kids who tend to be excited about whatever you’re excited about. Teenagers can bristle if they feel you are asking too many questions, so make sure you are sharing the details of your day, too. A conversation is always better than an interrogation.

Likewise, it’s important to stay involved but give older kids a little more space. If you’re on top of your kid all the time about homework, they may develop resistance and be less motivated to work — not to mention the strain it will put on your relationship.

Use reinforcement

Many parents are nervous about rewarding kids for good work, and it’s true that tangible rewards can turn into a slippery slope. But there are ways to use extrinsic motivation that will eventually be internalized by your kid. “Kids respond really well to social reinforcers like praises, hugs, high fives, and those kinds of things,” says Laura Phillips, PsyD, a clinical neuropsychologist. “Then they start to achieve because it feels good for them.”

Ken Schuster, PsyD, a neuropsychologist at the Child Mind Institute, encourages parents to use rewarding activities that would have probably occurred either way but placing them after a set amount of time doing homework. He suggests treats that are easy to provide but that your child will enjoy, such as going for ice cream or sharing a candy bar. He also recommends breaking work up into chunks and using small breaks as rewards for getting through each chunk.

Reward effort rather than outcome

The message you want to send is that you respect hard work. Praising kids for following through when things get difficult, for making a sustained effort, and for trying things they’re not sure they can do successfully can all help teach them the pleasure of pushing themselves. Praise for good grades that come easily can make kids feel they shouldn’t have to exert themselves.

Help them see the big picture

For older kids who have developed an understanding of delayed gratification, sometimes simple reminders of their long-term goals can help push them. It can help many high school seniors who slack off after getting into college to remind them that they could lose their acceptance if their grades drop too much, or that they might not be prepared for college courses. “Linking school up with their long-term goals can make the work feel more personally fulfilling,” explains Dr. Phillips.

Let them make mistakes

No one can get A’s on every test or a perfect score on every assignment. While kids need encouragement, and it’s healthy to push them to try their best, know that setbacks are natural. Sometimes the only way kids learn how to properly prepare for school is by finding out what happens when they’re unprepared.

Get outside help

One way to take a little tension away from your relationship with your child is to find an older student (either at their school or a nearby college) to help them out with work. Most will charge pretty low rates, and the fact that they’re closer to your kid’s age may make it more likely they’ll listen to what they say.

“Homework was a source of conflict for us,” says Elizabeth, whose son Alex has ADHD. Elizabeth hired a few Barnard students to help Alex do his homework on certain nights, she recalls. “He behaved a lot better with them, and it was money well spent for me because I wasn’t fighting, and I wasn’t stressed out.”

Make the teacher your ally

Another one of the most important things you can do for your child is to work with their teacher. The teacher might have additional insight about how to motivate your child or what they might be struggling with. Likewise, you can share any strategies or information that you have.

When her son was in lower school and only had one teacher, Elizabeth would call his teacher before the first day, introducing herself and alerting the teacher that her son had ADHD and that he found it hard to focus. She would give the teacher little tips that she had found were useful with Alex: Writing multi-step directions on the board, tapping him on the shoulder while walking past to make sure he was paying attention, and other small tweaks that would be useful to any young child but are especially essential to one with ADHD.

“Make sure that both school and home are of one accord,” stresses Kristin Carothers, PhD, a clinical psychologist. Dr. Carothers often sets up a system she calls the daily report card. With this system, the child gets points from their teacher for things like completing work and following directions the first time they get them. Then they bring those points home, where their parents give them small rewards, such as extra time on the iPad or playing a game together.

Get support for yourself

It can be just as frustrating to watch your child withdraw from school as it can be for some kids to maintain focus. Elizabeth says that she often feels judged as a parent for having a son who struggles so much in school.

Some schools have support groups for parents of kids who are less motivated, and if your child’s school doesn’t, Elizabeth encourages setting one up. “It’s very comforting to hear that you’re not alone,” she says. “It’s also helpful to hear people who have gone ahead of you talk about how to navigate the school’s system, find a therapist, and talk to teachers.”

“If you’re feeling yourself getting really angry or frustrated with your kids, take a step back,” Dr. Carothers recommends. “Put things into context.”

It’s also important to keep your goals in perspective: Your child may not become a star student. Make sure to focus on the effort they put in and the commitment they show instead of the outcome. If you expect perfect achievement from a child who struggles in school, you’ll drive yourself crazy.

“I’m not trying to get my child to be someone he’s not,” Elizabeth says about her efforts to help her son. “I just want him to reach his potential.”

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I motivate my child to do homework?

You can motivate your child to do homework by letting them know you’re available to answer any questions they might have and that you see how hard they’re working. You can also reward them with small treats, like going out for ice cream, after they finish a certain amount of homework.

What motivates a child to do well in school?

https://standingabovethecrowd.com/james-donaldson-on-mental-health-how-to-help-your-child-get-motivated-in-school/

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Understanding OCD: Living with Intrusive Thoughts

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a term that is often misunderstood and misused in casual conversation. However, for those who live with OCD, it is a serious mental health condition that greatly impacts their daily lives. This blog post aims to shed light on understanding OCD, specifically focusing on living with intrusive thoughts, and provide insights into coping mechanisms and support options.

Table of Contents

1. Introduction to OCD

2. What Are Intrusive Thoughts?

3. The Impact of Intrusive Thoughts on Daily Life

4. Coping Strategies for Managing Intrusive Thoughts

5. Seeking Professional Help

6. Conclusion

7. FAQs

Introduction to OCD

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is a mental health condition characterized by persistent, unwanted thoughts (obsessions) and repetitive behaviors (compulsions) that an individual feels driven to perform. These compulsions are typically aimed at reducing the anxiety associated with the obsessions or preventing some dreaded event or situation. However, these compulsions provide only temporary relief and can become time-consuming, distressing, and disruptive.

What Are Intrusive Thoughts?

Intrusive thoughts are unwanted, involuntary thoughts, images, or ideas that can be disturbing or distressing. They often pop up without warning and can be repetitive, causing significant anxiety and distress. For someone with OCD, these thoughts can become fixated, leading to compulsive behaviors as a way to manage the anxiety they cause.

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

It's important to note that having intrusive thoughts is not exclusive to those with OCD; almost everyone experiences them at some point. However, for individuals with OCD, these thoughts are more frequent, intense, and harder to dismiss, creating a cycle of obsession and compulsion.

The Impact of Intrusive Thoughts on Daily Life

Living with intrusive thoughts can be incredibly challenging. They can interfere with daily activities, relationships, and overall quality of life. Individuals may spend hours each day performing rituals or mental acts to neutralize these thoughts, which can lead to exhaustion and frustration.

For instance, a person with OCD may be plagued by the fear of harming others, leading to the compulsion to avoid certain situations, people, or objects. This can isolate them from social interactions and impact their ability to function normally in various settings.

Coping Strategies for Managing Intrusive Thoughts

While living with OCD and intrusive thoughts can be difficult, there are strategies that can help manage them. Here are some effective coping mechanisms:

1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

CBT is a highly effective therapy for OCD. It involves exposure and response prevention (ERP), which helps individuals face their fears and reduce the compulsive behaviors associated with their obsessions. Through ERP, individuals gradually learn to tolerate the anxiety triggered by intrusive thoughts without resorting to compulsions.

2. Mindfulness and Meditation

Practicing mindfulness can help individuals detach from their intrusive thoughts and recognize them as just thoughts, rather than truths or commands. Meditation can be a useful tool for reducing anxiety and promoting a sense of calm.

3. Journaling

Writing down intrusive thoughts can help in understanding and processing them. Journaling provides a safe space to explore the emotions and triggers associated with these thoughts, potentially reducing their power.

4. Limiting Reassurance Seeking

Seeking reassurance from others can temporarily relieve anxiety but often reinforces OCD patterns. Learning to tolerate uncertainty and resisting the urge to seek reassurance can be a powerful step in managing OCD.

Seeking Professional Help

If you or a loved one is struggling with OCD and intrusive thoughts, seeking professional help is crucial. Mental health professionals, such as psychologists or psychiatrists, can provide a proper diagnosis and create a tailored treatment plan that may include therapy, medication, or a combination of both.

Support groups can also be beneficial, providing a sense of community and understanding from those who share similar experiences.

Conclusion

Understanding OCD and living with intrusive thoughts can be daunting, but with the right tools and support, it is possible to manage and lead a fulfilling life. Recognizing that these thoughts are a part of a mental health condition, rather than a reflection of one's character, is an important step towards healing.

FAQs

Q: Are intrusive thoughts a sign of OCD?

A: Intrusive thoughts can occur in many people, but when they become frequent, intense, and lead to compulsive behaviors, they may be a sign of OCD.

Q: Can OCD be cured?

A: While there is no cure for OCD, it can be effectively managed with therapy, medication, and coping strategies, allowing individuals to lead productive lives.

Q: Is medication necessary for OCD?

A: Medication is not necessary for everyone with OCD, but it can be beneficial for some, particularly when combined with therapy. A mental health professional can provide guidance on treatment options.

Q: How can family members support someone with OCD?

A: Family members can support by being understanding, patient, and encouraging the individual to seek professional help. It’s important not to enable compulsive behaviors by providing excessive reassurance.

https://standingabovethecrowd.com/understanding-ocd-living-with-intrusive-thoughts/

Strategies you can use to help kids work up to their potential

Writer: Danielle Cohen

Clinical Experts: Laura Phillips, PsyD, ABPdN , Ken Schuster, PsyD , Kristin Carothers, PhD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-cue8RaVLg

What You'll Learn

- Why do some kids have trouble getting motivated in school?

- How can parents help their children try harder in school?

- Quick Read

- Full Article

- Get involved

- Use reinforcement

- Reward effort rather than outcome

- Help them see the big picture

- Let them make mistakes

- Get outside help

- Make the teacher your ally

- Get support for yourself

It’s common for kids to lack motivation in school. Sometimes, this happens because the child has ADHD, anxiety, social challenges, or a learning disability. But other times, kids without a diagnosable problem still have trouble living up to their potential in school. Here are a few ways that parents can encourage kids to put in more effort at school.

Start by showing kids that you care about their schoolwork. Check in with them about how classes are going. Let them know that you’re there if they need homework help. Ask what they’re learning and what they like (and don’t like) about the assignments. With older kids, be sure to give them space, too. If they sense that you’re pressuring them, they might end up feeling resentful and less motivated.

Using positive reinforcement helps. You don’t need to give kids big rewards, but even small ones like a high five or a few extra minutes of screen time can make a difference. It’s also important to praise effort, not results. For example, praise your child for finishing a tough assignment or taking a class that might be hard. Nobody gets top grades all the time, so make sure your child knows you don’t expect perfection.

You can also bring in reinforcements if schoolwork is becoming a source of conflict for you and your child. You could hire an older student at your child’s school or a nearby college to help monitor homework and ease stress on the family. Talking to your child’s teacher can also give you insight into their behavior and help you work as a team to encourage them.

Finally, be sure to keep tabs on your own feelings. If you’re getting very frustrated or angry about your child’s school performance, a therapist or support group can help.

If you have a child who is struggling in school and doesn’t seem to be motivated to make an effort, the first thing you want to do is explore whether there is some obstacle getting in their way. Learning issues, social challenges, attention or emotional problems can all cause kids to disengage academically.

But not all kids who are underperforming in school — clearly not living up to their potential — have a diagnosable problem. And there are a number of things parents can do to help motivate kids to try harder.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Get involved

As a parent or caregiver, your presence in the academic life of your child is crucial to their commitment to work. Do homework with them, and let them know that you’re available to answer questions. Get in the habit of asking them about what they learned in school, and generally engage them academically. By demonstrating your interest in your child’s school life, you’re showing them school can be exciting and interesting. This is especially effective with young kids who tend to be excited about whatever you’re excited about. Teenagers can bristle if they feel you are asking too many questions, so make sure you are sharing the details of your day, too. A conversation is always better than an interrogation.

Likewise, it’s important to stay involved but give older kids a little more space. If you’re on top of your kid all the time about homework, they may develop resistance and be less motivated to work — not to mention the strain it will put on your relationship.

Use reinforcement

Many parents are nervous about rewarding kids for good work, and it’s true that tangible rewards can turn into a slippery slope. But there are ways to use extrinsic motivation that will eventually be internalized by your kid. “Kids respond really well to social reinforcers like praises, hugs, high fives, and those kinds of things,” says Laura Phillips, PsyD, a clinical neuropsychologist. “Then they start to achieve because it feels good for them.”

Ken Schuster, PsyD, a neuropsychologist at the Child Mind Institute, encourages parents to use rewarding activities that would have probably occurred either way but placing them after a set amount of time doing homework. He suggests treats that are easy to provide but that your child will enjoy, such as going for ice cream or sharing a candy bar. He also recommends breaking work up into chunks and using small breaks as rewards for getting through each chunk.

Reward effort rather than outcome

The message you want to send is that you respect hard work. Praising kids for following through when things get difficult, for making a sustained effort, and for trying things they’re not sure they can do successfully can all help teach them the pleasure of pushing themselves. Praise for good grades that come easily can make kids feel they shouldn’t have to exert themselves.

Help them see the big picture

For older kids who have developed an understanding of delayed gratification, sometimes simple reminders of their long-term goals can help push them. It can help many high school seniors who slack off after getting into college to remind them that they could lose their acceptance if their grades drop too much, or that they might not be prepared for college courses. “Linking school up with their long-term goals can make the work feel more personally fulfilling,” explains Dr. Phillips.

Let them make mistakes

No one can get A’s on every test or a perfect score on every assignment. While kids need encouragement, and it’s healthy to push them to try their best, know that setbacks are natural. Sometimes the only way kids learn how to properly prepare for school is by finding out what happens when they’re unprepared.

Get outside help

One way to take a little tension away from your relationship with your child is to find an older student (either at their school or a nearby college) to help them out with work. Most will charge pretty low rates, and the fact that they’re closer to your kid’s age may make it more likely they’ll listen to what they say.

“Homework was a source of conflict for us,” says Elizabeth, whose son Alex has ADHD. Elizabeth hired a few Barnard students to help Alex do his homework on certain nights, she recalls. “He behaved a lot better with them, and it was money well spent for me because I wasn’t fighting, and I wasn’t stressed out.”

Make the teacher your ally

Another one of the most important things you can do for your child is to work with their teacher. The teacher might have additional insight about how to motivate your child or what they might be struggling with. Likewise, you can share any strategies or information that you have.

When her son was in lower school and only had one teacher, Elizabeth would call his teacher before the first day, introducing herself and alerting the teacher that her son had ADHD and that he found it hard to focus. She would give the teacher little tips that she had found were useful with Alex: Writing multi-step directions on the board, tapping him on the shoulder while walking past to make sure he was paying attention, and other small tweaks that would be useful to any young child but are especially essential to one with ADHD.

“Make sure that both school and home are of one accord,” stresses Kristin Carothers, PhD, a clinical psychologist. Dr. Carothers often sets up a system she calls the daily report card. With this system, the child gets points from their teacher for things like completing work and following directions the first time they get them. Then they bring those points home, where their parents give them small rewards, such as extra time on the iPad or playing a game together.

Get support for yourself

It can be just as frustrating to watch your child withdraw from school as it can be for some kids to maintain focus. Elizabeth says that she often feels judged as a parent for having a son who struggles so much in school.

Some schools have support groups for parents of kids who are less motivated, and if your child’s school doesn’t, Elizabeth encourages setting one up. “It’s very comforting to hear that you’re not alone,” she says. “It’s also helpful to hear people who have gone ahead of you talk about how to navigate the school’s system, find a therapist, and talk to teachers.”

“If you’re feeling yourself getting really angry or frustrated with your kids, take a step back,” Dr. Carothers recommends. “Put things into context.”

It’s also important to keep your goals in perspective: Your child may not become a star student. Make sure to focus on the effort they put in and the commitment they show instead of the outcome. If you expect perfect achievement from a child who struggles in school, you’ll drive yourself crazy.

“I’m not trying to get my child to be someone he’s not,” Elizabeth says about her efforts to help her son. “I just want him to reach his potential.”

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I motivate my child to do homework?

You can motivate your child to do homework by letting them know you’re available to answer any questions they might have and that you see how hard they’re working. You can also reward them with small treats, like going out for ice cream, after they finish a certain amount of homework.

What motivates a child to do well in school? https://standingabovethecrowd.com/?p=16395

 Last night’s decision to restore billions of dollars in federal mental health and substance use grants was necessary. Communities across the country rely on these investments to keep counseling centers open, sustain treatment and recovery programs, retain trained clinicians, and deliver life-saving prevention services. Reinstating the funding averted immediate disruption for thousands of providers and millions of people who depend on them.

But the brief cancellation exposed a dangerous reality: our nation’s mental health infrastructure is fragile, vulnerable to abrupt policy shifts that can destabilize care overnight.

According to multiple reports, more than $1.9 billion in grants administered by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) were abruptly terminated on January 13 across more than 2,800 awards. Programs supporting suicide prevention, youth mental health, overdose prevention, workforce development, domestic violence services, and community recovery were swept into the action. Termination notices landed in inboxes with little warning and limited clarity. Within hours, organizations across the country began preparing for layoffs and service closures.

Even though the funding was restored less than 24 hours later, the disruption was real: trust was shaken, operational planning was destabilized, and frontline providers faced the possibility of essential services vanishing without notice. 

“This episode showed how quickly critical mental health infrastructure can be destabilized without clear guardrails,” said Dr. Zainab Okolo, senior vice president of policy, advocacy & government relations at The Jed Foundation (JED). “If we want crisis systems like 988 to work, policymakers must protect the community services that make follow-up care possible. Funding stability is not optional. It is foundational.”

We welcome the swift reversal of the funding cuts, and also recognize the bipartisan leadership in Congress that spoke up to protect mental health and substance use investments. But this episode should serve as a clear warning that crisis response alone cannot support the full range of prevention, treatment, and recovery services that youth need, and families depend on. 

The federal government has rightly invested in the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, which has become a vital entry point for people seeking immediate help during moments of acute distress or crisis. Millions of calls, texts, and chats are answered each year, and lives are being saved.

Yet a crisis line cannot function in isolation. 

Counselors cannot refer callers to services that no longer exist. Families cannot stabilize loved ones without accessible treatment and follow-up care. Schools and community organizations cannot absorb the downstream impact when prevention programs are stripped away.

Suicide remains one of the leading causes of death in the United States. It is the second leading cause of death for young people ages 10 to 34. Nearly 50,000 Americans die by suicide each year, and millions more experience suicidal thoughts or attempts. More than 2 in 5 adults personally know someone who has died by suicide, meaning the ripple effects touch tens of millions of families, workplaces, classrooms, and neighborhoods.

Decades of research tell us that suicide risk is not random. It increases when mental health and substance use conditions go untreated, when social connection erodes, when trusted adults, peer supports, and prevention programs disappear, and when follow-up care becomes harder to access after moments of crisis.

What Works: Prevention, Early Intervention, and Community-Based Systems

When funding for prevention and treatment is destabilized, the consequences are predictable. More people reach crisis, and fewer pathways exist to support recovery and stability afterward. Crisis systems become overloaded. Local capacity erodes. The safety net frays and individuals and families are left to shoulder impossible burdens. 

In an interdependent mental health ecosystem, the brief cancellation of these grants—even though reversed— is deeply consequential. It revealed how quickly essential infrastructure can be put at risk and underscored the need for stronger guardrails to protect life-saving services from abrupt disruption.

Mental health and suicide prevention are not discretionary luxuries. They are core priorities for public health and community safety. Protecting lives requires sustained investment across the full continuum of care, from upstream prevention and youth engagement to crisis response and long-term treatment and recovery.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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Policymakers and Federal Leaders Should Take Three Immediate Steps

- Safeguard community-based mental health and substance use funding from sudden destabilization. Providers need predictability to retain staff, serve patients, and plan responsibly. 

- Protect prevention and early intervention infrastructure that reduces suicide risk before a crisis occurs. Cutting upstream supports increases downstream emergencies and costs.

- Ensure that 988 remains integrated within a functioning system of care. Maintain accessible referral pathways and continuity of services beyond the initial call.

Restoring the funding was the right decision. Now we must ensure this moment becomes a turning point toward greater stability, stronger protections, and a mental health system that is resilient enough to meet the needs of the people it serves.

When suicide prevention is treated as optional, the outcomes are predictable and preventable harm follows. We have the opportunity, and the responsibility, to choose a better path forward. https://standingabovethecrowd.com/?p=16393

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Restoring Mental Health Funding Was the Right Move. It Saved Lives.

 Last night’s decision to restore billions of dollars in federal mental health and substance use grants was necessary. Communities across the country rely on these investments to keep counseling centers open, sustain treatment and recovery programs, retain trained clinicians, and deliver life-saving prevention services. Reinstating the funding averted immediate disruption for thousands of providers and millions of people who depend on them.

But the brief cancellation exposed a dangerous reality: our nation’s mental health infrastructure is fragile, vulnerable to abrupt policy shifts that can destabilize care overnight.

According to multiple reports, more than $1.9 billion in grants administered by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) were abruptly terminated on January 13 across more than 2,800 awards. Programs supporting suicide prevention, youth mental health, overdose prevention, workforce development, domestic violence services, and community recovery were swept into the action. Termination notices landed in inboxes with little warning and limited clarity. Within hours, organizations across the country began preparing for layoffs and service closures.

Even though the funding was restored less than 24 hours later, the disruption was real: trust was shaken, operational planning was destabilized, and frontline providers faced the possibility of essential services vanishing without notice. 

“This episode showed how quickly critical mental health infrastructure can be destabilized without clear guardrails,” said Dr. Zainab Okolo, senior vice president of policy, advocacy & government relations at The Jed Foundation (JED). “If we want crisis systems like 988 to work, policymakers must protect the community services that make follow-up care possible. Funding stability is not optional. It is foundational.”

We welcome the swift reversal of the funding cuts, and also recognize the bipartisan leadership in Congress that spoke up to protect mental health and substance use investments. But this episode should serve as a clear warning that crisis response alone cannot support the full range of prevention, treatment, and recovery services that youth need, and families depend on. 

The federal government has rightly invested in the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, which has become a vital entry point for people seeking immediate help during moments of acute distress or crisis. Millions of calls, texts, and chats are answered each year, and lives are being saved.

Yet a crisis line cannot function in isolation. 

Counselors cannot refer callers to services that no longer exist. Families cannot stabilize loved ones without accessible treatment and follow-up care. Schools and community organizations cannot absorb the downstream impact when prevention programs are stripped away.

Suicide remains one of the leading causes of death in the United States. It is the second leading cause of death for young people ages 10 to 34. Nearly 50,000 Americans die by suicide each year, and millions more experience suicidal thoughts or attempts. More than 2 in 5 adults personally know someone who has died by suicide, meaning the ripple effects touch tens of millions of families, workplaces, classrooms, and neighborhoods.

Decades of research tell us that suicide risk is not random. It increases when mental health and substance use conditions go untreated, when social connection erodes, when trusted adults, peer supports, and prevention programs disappear, and when follow-up care becomes harder to access after moments of crisis.

What Works: Prevention, Early Intervention, and Community-Based Systems

When funding for prevention and treatment is destabilized, the consequences are predictable. More people reach crisis, and fewer pathways exist to support recovery and stability afterward. Crisis systems become overloaded. Local capacity erodes. The safety net frays and individuals and families are left to shoulder impossible burdens. 

In an interdependent mental health ecosystem, the brief cancellation of these grants—even though reversed— is deeply consequential. It revealed how quickly essential infrastructure can be put at risk and underscored the need for stronger guardrails to protect life-saving services from abrupt disruption.

Mental health and suicide prevention are not discretionary luxuries. They are core priorities for public health and community safety. Protecting lives requires sustained investment across the full continuum of care, from upstream prevention and youth engagement to crisis response and long-term treatment and recovery.

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Policymakers and Federal Leaders Should Take Three Immediate Steps

- Safeguard community-based mental health and substance use funding from sudden destabilization. Providers need predictability to retain staff, serve patients, and plan responsibly. 
- Protect prevention and early intervention infrastructure that reduces suicide risk before a crisis occurs. Cutting upstream supports increases downstream emergencies and costs.
- Ensure that 988 remains integrated within a functioning system of care. Maintain accessible referral pathways and continuity of services beyond the initial call.

Restoring the funding was the right decision. Now we must ensure this moment becomes a turning point toward greater stability, stronger protections, and a mental health system that is resilient enough to meet the needs of the people it serves.

When suicide prevention is treated as optional, the outcomes are predictable and preventable harm follows. We have the opportunity, and the responsibility, to choose a better path forward.

https://standingabovethecrowd.com/james-donaldson-on-mental-health-restoring-mental-health-funding-was-the-right-move-it-saved-lives/

James Donaldson on Mental Health - PTSD in First Responders: Coping Mechanisms and Support

First responders are the backbone of public safety, often facing traumatic situations that most people cannot imagine. While their bravery is commendable, the psychological toll of their experiences can lead to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). In this blog post, we'll delve into the challenges faced by first responders, explore effective coping mechanisms, and highlight the available support systems to manage PTSD.

Table of Contents

1. Understanding PTSD in First Responders

2. Common Symptoms of PTSD

3. Coping Mechanisms for PTSD

4. Support Systems Available

5. Conclusion

6. FAQs

Understanding PTSD in First Responders

First responders, including police officers, firefighters, emergency medical technicians (EMTs), and paramedics, are frequently exposed to distressing events. The nature of their work means they often encounter life-threatening situations, severe injuries, and even death. Such experiences can trigger PTSD, a mental health condition characterized by persistent mental and emotional stress.

PTSD in first responders can manifest in various forms, from nightmares and flashbacks to emotional numbness and heightened anxiety. Recognizing the signs early is crucial in providing the necessary support and intervention.

Common Symptoms of PTSD

PTSD symptoms can vary widely among first responders, but some common signs include:

1. Intrusive Memories: These can manifest as flashbacks, nightmares, or repeated, involuntary memories of traumatic events.

2. Avoidance: Individuals may avoid places, people, or activities that remind them of the traumatic event, leading to social isolation.

3. Negative Changes in Thinking and Mood: This can include feelings of hopelessness, emotional numbness, or a sense of detachment from friends and family.

4. Changes in Physical and Emotional Reactions: Often referred to as arousal symptoms, these can include being easily startled, feeling tense, or experiencing difficulty sleeping.

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

Click Here For More Information About James Donaldson

Click here to follow James Donaldson's Blog

Coping Mechanisms for PTSD

Coping with PTSD is a personal journey, and what works for one person may not work for another. However, several strategies have proven effective for many first responders:

1. Professional Therapy: Engaging with a psychologist or counselor specializing in PTSD can provide a safe space to process traumatic events and develop coping strategies.

2. Peer Support Groups: Connecting with others who have faced similar experiences can foster a sense of community and understanding, reducing feelings of isolation.

3. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as meditation, yoga, or deep breathing exercises can help reduce stress and improve emotional regulation.

4. Physical Activity: Regular exercise is not only beneficial for physical health but also plays a significant role in mental well-being, helping to reduce anxiety and depression symptoms.

Support Systems Available

There are numerous resources available to support first responders dealing with PTSD:

1. Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs): Many organizations offer EAPs that provide confidential counseling services and resources for stress management.

2. Specialized PTSD Programs: Programs like the International Association of Fire Fighters' Center of Excellence or the Police Organization Providing Peer Assistance offer targeted support for first responders.

3. Community Mental Health Services: Local and national mental health organizations often provide resources and support tailored to the needs of first responders.

4. Online Resources and Helplines: Websites such as the National Center for PTSD offer educational materials, self-help tools, and hotlines for immediate assistance.

Conclusion

PTSD is a serious condition that affects many first responders, but with the right coping mechanisms and support systems in place, it is possible to manage its impact. Raising awareness and encouraging open discussions about mental health can help break the stigma associated with PTSD, ensuring that those who dedicate their lives to helping others receive the care they deserve.

FAQs

Q: What causes PTSD in first responders?

A: PTSD in first responders is often caused by exposure to traumatic events, such as accidents, natural disasters, or violent incidents.

Q: Can PTSD be cured?

A: While there is no definitive cure for PTSD, many individuals can manage their symptoms effectively with therapy, medication, and support.

Q: How can family members support a first responder with PTSD?

A: Family members can support by being understanding, encouraging professional help, and participating in family therapy sessions.

Q: Are there specific therapies recommended for PTSD?

A: Yes, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and exposure therapy are commonly recommended for PTSD treatment.

https://standingabovethecrowd.com/ptsd-in-first-responders-coping-mechanisms-and-support/