Start a conversation, gently ask questions and offer help without judgment

Our #mentalhealth affects the ways we think, feel, behave and interact with others. And it’s something that we all need to focus on, especially if we’re going through a major life change, dealing with #stress or struggling with a relationship.

While you may be keyed into your own #mentalhealth, there might be a time in your life when you’re worried about someone else’s #mentalhealth. And when you do, you may think, “I should mind my own business.”

But under the right circumstances, you can do a lot of good by reaching out, says #psychiatrist Minnie Bowers-Smith, MD.

Dr. Bowers walks us through how to help a #child, #teenager, #adult, friend or coworker who might be dealing with a #mentalhealthcondition.

How to get #mentalhealth help for a family member

Whether it’s your own #child, a sibling or an aunt, you may be worried about how to get #mentalhealth help for a loved one. Dr. Bowers provides some guidance, including conversation prompts.

What to say to a #child or #teenager

Say you notice your 16-year-old niece isn’t particularly happy. She’s doing poorly at #school. She’s not interacting with people, taking care of herself or getting along with family and friends.

“When it seems like something isn’t moving in the right direction for her as a normal 16-year-old, have a conversation with her,” says Dr. Bowers. “It’s difficult to talk to #teens unless they want to talk to you, so I try to tap into the here and now. If I see a tattoo, I’ll ask, ‘When did you get that tattoo, what’s it mean?’”

Eventually, you can say, “Is there anything you think you want to talk about?” or “Can I help you in any way?”

If you see scars on a young person’s wrist, if they always dress in black, if they always seem unhappy, Dr. Bowers suggests asking, “Is there any chance you might hurt someone or hurt yourself?” or “Have you had any thoughts about dying?”

“It’s better to ask than to not ask,” says Dr. Bowers. “With #teens, you always want to know about #suicidalthinking, to prevent harm to themselves and others.”

Or you can ask their #parent to pose these questions to their #child. If that doesn’t work, the #parent should talk to their child’s #pediatrician.

“When #teens are violent toward themselves, their siblings or their #parents, that demands an ER visit,” states Dr. Bowers. “If #drugs or #alcohol are involved, or if they overdose, go to the ER. Then, let the experts decide when to bring them home.”

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What to say to an #adult

The risk of #suicide isn’t confined to the young. “#Suicide is also a concern in older #adults,” says Dr. Bowers.

Say your 55-year-old uncle has been laid off. He’s isolated himself, grown irritable and doesn’t bother to shave or put on clean clothes.

Midlife crises — a job loss, #financial setback, #healthchallenge and/or relationship problems — increase #suiciderisk, especially in #men. #Alcoholabuse only adds fuel to the fire.

How do you tackle this sensitive subject with the older generation? Dr. Bowers recommends a gentle, respectful approach. Start by asking how they’re doing and if they’re still able to enjoy their favorite pursuits.

“Then, ever so gently, you can say, ‘Are you happy with what you’re able to do now or not?’ and ‘Are you feeling kind of sad?’” she suggests.

If they don’t volunteer information, you can observe if they don’t seem happy and aren’t getting around well. Ask if they’re sleeping, eating and taking care of themselves.

“Then, you can ever so gently move into, ‘It may be helpful to talk to somebody — medication can help you feel better,’” Dr. Bowers offers. Ask if they have a family #doctor, then, help them make an appointment.

But if your relative admits to hoarding medication or says, “Life just doesn’t seem worth living,” take them to the ER or urgent care, or call your local #suicidepreventionhotline or the #police.

“If you say you have a suicidal relative, you’ll be connected to the services you need,” she continues. “Large cities often have mobile crisis teams that come out to the home.”

How to get #mentalhealth help for a friend or coworker

It’s trickier talking to someone you’re not related to — like a friend whose difficult or erratic behavior has landed them in hot water at work.

Without judging, offer your concerned support. “It won’t help to discuss what they should have done or what the boss should have done,” notes Dr. Bowers. “Just say, ‘I’d like to help you stop having the troubles you’ve been having.’ Show them that you’re working with them and not against them.”

You can tell them, “I know someone who can help,” and offer the name of a #doctor or #counselor. But if you think the situation might escalate, get help.

“Use your judgment,” advises Dr. Bowers. “If you think the person might get angry — or if they own guns or knives, or have said they’re going to hurt someone, or slash someone’s tires, then call the #police, or the security officer at work.”

Know your limits when it comes to offering help

Compassion is key when you’re worried about someone with #mentalhealthproblems. After all, they may not even realize they have a #mentalhealthdisorder.

“Pose your questions thoughtfully,” says Dr. Bowers. “Some people with serious #mentalillnesses may decline our help. But sometimes, we’re just not asking the right questions.”

And remember, you can’t fix their problem — only a #mentalhealthprofessional can. But you can get those you love going in a healthy direction by referring them to experts for help.

Community resources are useful as well. The #NationalAllianceonMentalIllness (#NAMI) is a free resource for those with a #mentalhealthcondition and their loved ones. You can call or text the #NAMI Helpline at 800.950.6264.

#Self-help groups like Emotions Anonymous (a 12-step program) can also be invaluable.

Call the #988SuicideandCrisisLifeline

You may be thinking about who to call when you’re worried about someone’s #mentalhealth.

By calling or texting #988 from anywhere in the U.S., you’ll be connected to local #counselors who can help you with whatever you’re facing. They can even send a mobile response team and provide long-term support.

#988 is for anyone — whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, thinking of #suicide, experiencing issues with #substanceabuse or are worried about a friend or family.

Good #mentalhealth should be a lifelong goal. Dr. Bowers notes that we tend to think about #mentalhealth only in the midst of a crisis, but our own #mentalhealth — and the #mentalhealth of those around us — should be a lifelong concern.

“Many life events can be confusing, scary and overwhelming,” she adds. “Good #mentalhealth will see you through declining health, the loss of loved ones, natural disasters, societal turmoil and the many other challenges life can bring.”
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