Wednesday, January 31, 2024

James Donaldson on Mental Health - The Real Face Of Depression

James Donaldson on Mental Health - The Real Face Of Depression

by Lateefah Fleming



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This is the face of depression. A gorgeous smile. The pearly whites showing. The head tilted back in laughter. The “boss babe” look. The face of someone who really does love life but doesn’t always feel like she can make it through life.



I am a wellness motivator, coach and professional. After 20 years in the business, I have covered a lot of ground: I have mentored, held managerial positions and taught others how to run their businesses. I love the process of helping women find their voices and to reach for their own power. It is an honor, and I am here for anyone who needs me.



Despite the abundance of personal successes and fulfilling work, depression is a constant in my life. It feels like a continuous knocking on my door — a soft but persistent knocking, always letting me know that it is still there. Eventually, it gets a little louder, and I cannot ignore it anymore.



I try my best to be busy: to go out, to talk on the phone — sometimes, I drink — to avoid that gnawing feeling, that incessant knocking. Then that level knocking turns into a steady pounding, and I have to fight even harder to get it under control. The fight is an all-out battle raging within me all while carrying on like a “normal” person.



Sometimes, I feel like I can’t function. I will have bouts of shortness of breath, moments where I’m fighting back tears and days where it takes every ounce of life within me to get out of bed.



It irritates me when I tell someone about my depression, and they shrug and say, “hey, everyone gets depressed, no big deal.” And then, there’s the well-intentioned, “you’ll feel better,” as if there is one thing that made you feel a little low.



My depression is not situational — it is not something triggered by the day-to-day disappointments. I have had dealt with tremendous setbacks and survived some horrible trauma, and my battle is more complicated than feeling a little down.



Thankfully, I am not doing this alone. It took me some time to seek help, but I eventually found a wonderful therapist who has given me tools to cope and provides a space for me to be raw, honest and vulnerable. She witnesses with my ups and downs while remaining caring and honest. And I need that.



I also have my yoga and meditation, a healthy lifestyle and, perhaps most importantly, time with friends. With the help of my therapist, I am learning to be honest with them about what I am feeling. No longer do I feel ashamed, embarrassed or even weak. Depression is a part of me but not the definition of who I am — and it is not something to keep from my loved ones. I still feel vulnerable when sharing my story and welcoming an audience behind the “veil” of happiness and success. In fact, this was difficult for me to write. But I want to emphasize the importance of taking mental health issues seriously, particularly in the Black community. Thankfully, I can do this with the support of my amazing community. They have empowered me to be a warrior, a proud Black woman and a global citizen.



Ultimately, I want to be an example to anyone fighting a similar battle. Lately, I have chosen to believe in myself and focused on the triumphs — my ability to speak up when I am not well, to identify and honor both "good" and "bad" days. Knowing I am not alone and finding strength in those who fight the same fight is empowering.



#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
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Tuesday, January 30, 2024

James Donaldson on Mental Health - What is Depression?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PqucgWm18w&t=7s&ab_channel=NAMI

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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James Donaldson on Mental Health - Learn the suicide risk factors
John S. Westefeld

To reach the suicide hotline, callers can dial 988 starting from any phone, just like dialing 911

According to the latest data available from the American Association of Suicidology, in 2021 there were 48,183 completed suicides in the United States, which is 132 per day. In 2021, 549 Iowans ended their own lives, an average of 1.5 every day. Suicide is a public health crisis. The suicide rate is the highest it has been since 1941, according to preliminary 2022 data reported by USA Today in November.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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As 2024 begins, it is important to review basic information about suicide, as well what to do if you are concerned about someone being potentially suicidal.

Even after many years of research, it remains very difficult to predict suicidal behavior. However, there are a few key risk factors. These risk factors include but are not limited to depression, feeling hopeless and helpless, talking about wanting to die, low self-esteem, isolation/loneliness, experiencing violence and victimization, increased use of drugs/alcohol, and a previous attempt. Access to firearms is an additional concern, because for many years firearms have been the No. 1 method people have used in carrying out suicide. In 2022, 26,993 people ended their lives using a firearm, according to CDC provisional data in July 2023. In my view, reducing firearm access would lower the suicide rate, and is of paramount importance.

If you are concerned about someone being suicidal, it is important to reach out and ask what many suicidologists call “the question,” which is “Have you been feeling so badly lately that you have thought about harming yourself” or some approximation of this wording. A myth remains that by introducing the topic, we will give people the idea to carry out a suicide. You are more likely to save a life than cause a death by raising the issue and giving the individual permission to talk about how they are feeling. It is also important to provide the individual with hope, monitor them for risk, and encourage seeking help. Don’t give up encouraging the individual to seek treatment. It has been my experience people will frequently initially resist going for help — but with continued support and encouragement, many will eventually seek treatment. A very important resource is the phone number 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. This number can also be texted. You can contact the 988 Lifeline for your own support should you be feeling suicidal, but also receive help in terms of assisting someone else who you consider potentially suicidal.

There have been some positive advances related to suicide prevention. One of the most recent and important is that after many years of discussion, a netting system has been put in place at the Golden Gate Bridge. I believe there is also more general awareness about the issue.

We need to educate the public about warning signs, what to do if concerned about someone, and available resources. We also need increased funding for mental health generally, and suicide prevention/response specifically. Hopefully, we can begin to reduce the suicide rate — and save lives.

John S. Westefeld is board-certified in counseling psychology, a suicidologist and a professor emeritus at The University of Iowa. The views expressed are his own.
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James Donaldson on Mental Health - What is Depression?

James Donaldson on Mental Health - What is Depression?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PqucgWm18w&t=7s&ab_channel=NAMI

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy



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James Donaldson on Mental Health - What is Depression?

James Donaldson on Mental Health - What is Depression?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PqucgWm18w&t=7s&ab_channel=NAMI

#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy



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Monday, January 29, 2024

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Learn the suicide risk factors

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Learn the suicide risk factors

John S. Westefeld



To reach the suicide hotline, callers will be able to dial 988 starting in July 2022 from any phone, just like dialing 911. (Dreamstime/TNS)To reach the suicide hotline, callers can dial 988 starting from any phone, just like dialing 911

According to the latest data available from the American Association of Suicidology, in 2021 there were 48,183 completed suicides in the United States, which is 132 per day. In 2021, 549 Iowans ended their own lives, an average of 1.5 every day. Suicide is a public health crisis. The suicide rate is the highest it has been since 1941, according to preliminary 2022 data reported by USA Today in November.



#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy



Book

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As 2024 begins, it is important to review basic information about suicide, as well what to do if you are concerned about someone being potentially suicidal.



Even after many years of research, it remains very difficult to predict suicidal behavior. However, there are a few key risk factors. These risk factors include but are not limited to depression, feeling hopeless and helpless, talking about wanting to die, low self-esteem, isolation/loneliness, experiencing violence and victimization, increased use of drugs/alcohol, and a previous attempt. Access to firearms is an additional concern, because for many years firearms have been the No. 1 method people have used in carrying out suicide. In 2022, 26,993 people ended their lives using a firearm, according to CDC provisional data in July 2023. In my view, reducing firearm access would lower the suicide rate, and is of paramount importance.



If you are concerned about someone being suicidal, it is important to reach out and ask what many suicidologists call “the question,” which is “Have you been feeling so badly lately that you have thought about harming yourself” or some approximation of this wording. A myth remains that by introducing the topic, we will give people the idea to carry out a suicide. You are more likely to save a life than cause a death by raising the issue and giving the individual permission to talk about how they are feeling. It is also important to provide the individual with hope, monitor them for risk, and encourage seeking help. Don’t give up encouraging the individual to seek treatment. It has been my experience people will frequently initially resist going for help — but with continued support and encouragement, many will eventually seek treatment. A very important resource is the phone number 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. This number can also be texted. You can contact the 988 Lifeline for your own support should you be feeling suicidal, but also receive help in terms of assisting someone else who you consider potentially suicidal.



There have been some positive advances related to suicide prevention. One of the most recent and important is that after many years of discussion, a netting system has been put in place at the Golden Gate Bridge. I believe there is also more general awareness about the issue.



We need to educate the public about warning signs, what to do if concerned about someone, and available resources. We also need increased funding for mental health generally, and suicide prevention/response specifically. Hopefully, we can begin to reduce the suicide rate — and save lives.



John S. Westefeld is board-certified in counseling psychology, a suicidologist and a professor emeritus at The University of Iowa. The views expressed are his own.




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James Donaldson on Mental Health - Health providers see rise in self-poisoning among young people
BY JUSTIN VELAZQUEZ CENTRAL NY

As the U.S. continues to face mental health and opioid crises, children are often some of the most impacted. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the suicide rate among young people ages 10-24 increased by 62% from 2007 to 2021.

A disturbing and growing trend among children and adolescents is the use of poison. The Upstate New York Poison Center discussed this, and what families can do to keep their children safe.

Vince Calleo, medical director at the Upstate New York Poison Center, says they’ve seen a significant rise in self-harm attempts among children and adolescents by poisoning. He can’t say this is directly caused by the COVID-19 pandemic, but...

“The time course with the pandemic occurring and that big rise in the number of self-harm attempts in the children and adolescents, I think, certainly, lineup," he said.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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In a study released by UVA Health last year, suspected self-poisoning suicide attempts made by adolescents increased by 30% from 2019-2021.

“Some of the things we see most commonly used in self-harm attempts by children are going to include a lot of readily available medications, including things like acetaminophen and ibuprofen," Calleo said.

He says a lot of factors contribute to the type of reaction someone may have from an overdose, making every situation unique. Typically, it would take a large amount of ibuprofen and other similar medications to cause a life-threatening scenario. But others can be more intense.

“There are some medications where, if you take as little as one to two pills, you could have a really severe life-threatening consequence," he said. "Some of those ones that we worry more about are certain types of depression medications and certain types of heart medications.”

Not buying medicine in bulk can prevent these incidents.

“Keeping medications and anything that’s dangerous in a medication lockbox," Calleo said. "This just helps to serve as an additional barrier to decrease the chances that a child, or really anyone, might have access to a medication.”

As a licensed clinical social worker, Khira Fryar helps children overcome their mental health struggles. She believes silencing children at a young age can lead to mental health issues and suicidal thoughts.

“There’s a phrase that I hate, that I’ve hated forever, like 'a child is to be seen and not heard,'" she said. "If you shut a child down enough, they’ll continue to isolate and then they’ll continue to feel like what I have to say is not important, what I bring to the table is not worthy, so why am I here?”

Talking about this with children could save their life.

“I think sometimes people think that if you talk about suicide, if you mention suicide, that you put the idea in their heads," Fryar said. "Guarantee you, the kids have already been thinking about it if you’re at this stage.”

“Keeping things out of sight, out of reach, locked up, using lock boxes is going to be very important as well," said Calleo.

The poison center has certified specialists trained in poison information and toxicology. They’re available 24/7 at 1-800-222-1222 when an emergency occurs.

The Suicide and Crisis Lifeline can be reached at 988.
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Saturday, January 27, 2024

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Is There a Link Between Opioids and Youth Suicides? What Educators Need to Know
By Arianna Prothero

The underlying causes of youth suicide are complex and difficult to study. But one thing is for certain, the rate of suicide deaths among children has been on an upward trajectory for more than a decade.

The suicide rate did drop among 10- to 24-year-olds between 2021 and 2022, according to preliminary data from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, but it remains elevated compared with two decades ago.

Suicide is one component—and the most tragic—of the youth mental health crisis that has been straining school resources.

One potentially overlooked factor driving the numbers up is the opioid crisis, said David Powell, a senior economist at RAND Corp., who studies the opioid crisis and policies to address it.

He’s been analyzing parallel trends between the rapid increase in child suicide deaths and the rise of illicit opioid use among adults.

Education Week interviewed Powell recently to better understand the influence the opioid crisis is having on youth mental health.

This conversation has been edited for length and clarity.

What made you want to examine how opioid abuse is connected to youth suicide?

A lot of the work on the opiate crisis is focused on overdose death, which obviously we should study. But I think we overlook these broader effects—not just on those who are misusing opioids, but also people who aren’t misusing opioids. Children are these forgotten victims of the opioid crisis because they’re much less likely to be directly exposed to prescription or illicit opioids. But having a parent die of an overdose or struggle with caretaking responsibilities itself is a traumatic event with potentially lifelong consequences.

At the same time, I did notice these trends in child suicide rates that we’re seeing now are just completely unprecedented in both duration and magnitude. I noticed my other work lined up—that when that rise started coincided with the start of the illicit opioid crisis.

You found a link between opioid use and youth suicides, but not because youth were using opioids. What did you find?

David Powell

The shift from prescription opioids to illicit opioids was really caused by the reformulation of OxyContin. In late 2010, they stopped selling the original version, and they released this abuse-deterrent version of OxyContin.

In this previous study, I found that areas which had higher rates of OxyContin misuse were the areas where you saw this sharper increase in heroin deaths. Heroin deaths began to increase in 2010, 2011, and then eventually fentanyl deaths increased more in those places too.

I basically took that same material strategy and used it on child suicide rates. And it was the exact same pattern: the places that had really high rates of OxyContin use prior to reformulation, they’re the ones where you see this major shift to heroin and fentanyl and that’s where you see the rise in child suicide rates.

I also have rates of just pain reliever misuse more generally. And those don’t predict anything about child suicide rates after 2010. So, it was unique to OxyContin.

Children themselves don’t really misuse opioids at very high rates, so you don’t see that many deaths from illicit opioids among children under 18. That’s changed a bit in like the last couple years. That suggests that there’s some other mechanism that’s affecting them, and that’s where paper doesn’t have a great answer.

But it suggests that it’s more about the broader effects of the opiate crisis worsening conditions for children in general. There’s increased rates of child neglect, there’s worsening economic conditions. So, all these things that are adding stressors to households.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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The pandemic and social media have both gotten a lot of blame for the youth mental health crisis. How big a piece of the youth mental health crisis is the opioid epidemic?

It’s a big piece. But I’ll caveat that. paper concludes that about half of the rise of child suicides can be linked to this shift to illicit opioids. The caveat is, if I had really good experiments for all these different hypotheses we have , like social media, and I did studies for each of those, that could all add up to over a hundred percent pretty easily. You might need four different things to happen.

So that would look weird, if somebody’s 50 percent responsible, 80 percent responsible, but it might be just because it’s the interaction of those things that really matters. That’s a frustrating answer because it doesn’t really rule out anything either. But it does say that the opiate crisis itself is currently playing a major role.

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James Donaldson on Mental Health - Native American communities have the highest suicide rates, yet interventions are scarce
By Cheryl Platzman Weinstock, KFF Health News

Heart Butte, Montana, which lies on the Blackfeet Indian Reservation, is pictured in 2019.Rion Sanders/Great Falls Tribune/USA Today NetworkKFF Health News — 

Editor’s Note: If you or someone you know may be experiencing a mental health crisis, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by dialing or texting “988.” To reach the Native and Strong Lifeline, call “988” and press 4.

Amanda MorningStar has watched her children struggle with mental health issues, including suicidal thoughts. She often wonders why.

“We’re family-oriented and we do stuff together. I had healthy pregnancies. We’re very protective of our kids,” said MorningStar, who lives in Heart Butte, Montana, a town of about 600 residents on the Blackfeet Indian Reservation.

Yet despite her best efforts, MorningStar said, her family faces a grim reality that touches Native American communities nationwide. About a year ago, her 15-year-old son, Ben, was so grief-stricken over his cousin’s suicide and two classmates’ suicides that he tried to kill himself.

“Their deaths made me feel like part of me was not here. I was gone. I was lost,” said Ben MorningStar.

He spent more than a week in an inpatient mental health unit, but once home, he was offered sparse mental health resources.

Non-Hispanic Indigenous people in the United States die by suicide at higher rates than any other racial or ethnic group, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The suicide rate among Montana’s Native American youth is more than five times the statewide rate for the same age group, according to the Montana Budget and Policy Center. Montana ranked third-worst among states for suicide deaths in 2020, and 25% of all suicides in the state from 2017 through 2021 were among Native Americans, even though they represent only 6.5% of the state’s population.

Despite decades of research into suicide prevention, suicide rates among Indigenous people have remained stubbornly high, especially among Indigenous people ages 10 to 24, according to the CDC. Experts say that’s because the national strategy for suicide prevention isn’t culturally relevant or sensitive to Native American communities’ unique values.

Suicide rates have increased among other racial and ethnic minorities, too, but to lesser degrees.

Systemic issues and structural inequities, including underfunded and under-resourced services from the federal Indian Health Service, also hamper suicide prevention in Indigenous communities. “I worried who was going to keep my son safe. Who could he call or reach out to? There are really no resources in Heart Butte,” said Amanda MorningStar.

Ben MorningStar said he is doing better. He now knows not to isolate himself when problems occur and that “it is OK to cry, and I got friends I can go to when I have a bad day. Friends are better than anything,” he said.

His twice-a-month, 15-minute virtual telehealth behavioral therapy visits from IHS were recently reduced to once a month.

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Mary Cwik, a psychologist and senior scientist at the Center for Indigenous Health at Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health in Baltimore, said the systemic shortcomings MorningStar has witnessed are symptoms of a national strategy that isn’t compatible with Indigenous value systems.

“It is not clear that the creation of the national strategy had Indigenous voices informing the priorities,” Cwik said.

The cause of high suicide rates in Indigenous communities is complex. Native Americans often live with the weight of more adverse childhood experiences than other populations — things such as emotional, physical, and sexual abuse, intimate partner violence, substance misuse, mental illness, parental separation or divorce, incarceration, and poverty.

Those adverse experiences stack upon intergenerational trauma caused by racial discrimination, colonization, forced relocation, and government-sanctioned abduction to boarding schools that persisted until the 1970s.

“There’s no way that communities shaped by these forces for so long will get rid of their problems fast by medical services. A lot of people in Indian Country struggle to retain hope. It’s easy to conclude that nothing can fix it,” said Joseph P. Gone, a professor of anthropology and global health and social medicine at Harvard University and member of the Gros Ventre (Aaniiih) tribal nation of Montana.

Most tribal nations are interested in collaborative research, but funding for such work is hard to come by, said Gone. So is funding for additional programs and services.

Stephen O’Connor, who leads the suicide prevention research program at the Division of Services and Intervention Research at the National Institute of Mental Health, said, “Given the crisis of suicide in Native American populations, we need more funding and continued sustained funding for research in this area.”

Getting grants for scientific research from NIMH, which is part of the National Institutes of Health, can be challenging, especially for smaller tribes, he said.

Amanda MorningStar says her family faces a grim reality that touches Native Americans nationwide. About a year ago, her son was so grief-stricken over his cousin's and two classmates' suicides that he tried to kill himself. (Amanda MorningStar)Amanda MorningStar

Officials at the NIMH and the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration said that they continue to build research partnerships with tribal nations and that they recently launched new grants and multiple programs that are culturally informed and evidence-based to reduce suicide in tribal communities.

NIMH researchers are even adjusting a commonly used suicide screening tool to incorporate more culturally appropriate language for Indigenous people.

Teresa Brockie, an associate professor at Johns Hopkins School of Nursing, is one of a small but growing number of researchers, many of whom are Indigenous, who study suicide prevention and intervention strategies that respect Indigenous beliefs and customs. Those strategies include smudging — the practice of burning medicinal plants to cleanse and connect people with their creator.

Without this understanding, research is hampered because people in tribal communities have “universal mistrust of health care and other colonized systems that have not been helpful to our people or proven to be supportive,” said Brockie, a member of Fort Belknap reservation’s Aaniiih Tribe.

Brockie is leading one of the first randomized controlled trials studying Indigenous people at Fort Peck. The project aims to reduce suicide risk by helping parents and caregivers deal with their own stress and trauma and develop positive coping skills. It’s also working to strengthen children’s tribal identity, connectivity, and spirituality.

In 2015, she reported on a study she led in 2011 to collect suicide data at the Fort Peck reservation in northeastern Montana. She found that adverse childhood experiences have a cumulative effect on suicide risk and also that tribal identity, strong connections with friends and family, and staying in school were protective against suicide.

In Arizona, Cwik is collaborating with the White Mountain Apache Tribe to help leaders there evaluate the impact of a comprehensive suicide surveillance system they created. So far, the program has reduced the overall Apache suicide rate by 38.3 % and the rate among young people ages 15 to 24 by 23%, according to the American Public Health Association.

Several tribal communities are attempting to implement a similar system in their communities, said Cwik.

Still, many tribal communities rely on limited mental health resources available through the Indian Health Service. One person at IHS is tasked with addressing suicide across almost 600 tribal nations.

Pamela End of Horn, a social worker and national suicide prevention consultant at IHS, said the Department of Veterans Affairs “has a suicide coordinator in every medical center across the U.S., plus case managers, and they have an entire office dedicated to suicide prevention. In Indian Health Service it is just me and that’s it.”

End of Horn, a member of the Oglala Lakota Sioux Tribe of the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation in South Dakota, blames politics for the discrepancy.

“Tribal leaders are pushing for more suicide prevention programs but lack political investment. The VA has strong proactive activities related to suicide and the backing of political leaders and veterans’ groups,” she said.

It is also hard to get mental health professionals to work on remote reservations, while VA centers tend to be in larger cities.

Even if more mental health services were available, they can be stigmatizing, re-traumatizing, and culturally incongruent for Indigenous people.

Many states are using creative strategies to stop suicide. A pilot project by the Rural Behavioral Health Institute screened more than 1,000 students in 10 Montana schools from 2020 to 2022. The governor of Montana is hoping to use state money to expand mental health screening for all schools.

Experts say the kinds of strategies best suited to prevent suicide among Native Americans should deliver services that reflect their diversity, traditions, and cultural and language needs.

That’s what Robert Coberly, 44, was searching for when he needed help.

Coberly began having suicidal thoughts at 10 years old.

“I was scared to live and scared to die. I just didn’t care,” said Coberly, who is a member of the Tulalip Tribes.

He suffered in private for nearly a decade until he almost died in a car crash while driving drunk. After a stay at a rehabilitation center, Coberly remained stable. Years later, though, his suicidal thoughts came rushing back when one of his children died. He sought treatment at a behavioral health center where some of the therapists were Indigenous. They blended Western methodologies with Indigenous customs, which, he said, “I was craving and what I needed.”

Part of his therapy included going to a sweat lodge for ritual steam baths as a means of purification and prayer.

Coberly was a counselor for the Native and Strong Lifeline, the first 988 crisis line for Indigenous people. He is now one of the crisis line tribal resource specialists connecting Indigenous people from Washington state with the resources they need.

“It’s about time we had this line. To be able to connect people with resources and listen to them is something I can’t explain except that I was in a situation where I wanted someone to hear me and talk to,” said Coberly.

Amanda MorningStar said she still worries about her son night and day, but he tries to reassure her.

“I go to sleep and wake up the next day to keep it going,” Ben MorningStar said. “I only get one chance. I might as well make the best of it.”

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James Donaldson on Mental Health - Is There a Link Between Opioids and Youth Suicides? What Educators Need to Know

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Is There a Link Between Opioids and Youth Suicides? What Educators Need to Know

By Arianna Prothero



Woman clutching knees next to prescription bottle: opioid crisis.



The underlying causes of youth suicide are complex and difficult to study. But one thing is for certain, the rate of suicide deaths among children has been on an upward trajectory for more than a decade.



The suicide rate did drop among 10- to 24-year-olds between 2021 and 2022, according to preliminary data from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, but it remains elevated compared with two decades ago.



Suicide is one component—and the most tragic—of the youth mental health crisis that has been straining school resources.



One potentially overlooked factor driving the numbers up is the opioid crisis, said David Powell, a senior economist at RAND Corp., who studies the opioid crisis and policies to address it.



He’s been analyzing parallel trends between the rapid increase in child suicide deaths and the rise of illicit opioid use among adults.



Education Week interviewed Powell recently to better understand the influence the opioid crisis is having on youth mental health.



This conversation has been edited for length and clarity.



What made you want to examine how opioid abuse is connected to youth suicide?



A lot of the work on the opiate crisis is focused on overdose death, which obviously we should study. But I think we overlook these broader effects—not just on those who are misusing opioids, but also people who aren’t misusing opioids. Children are these forgotten victims of the opioid crisis because they’re much less likely to be directly exposed to prescription or illicit opioids. But having a parent die of an overdose or struggle with caretaking responsibilities itself is a traumatic event with potentially lifelong consequences.



At the same time, I did notice these trends in child suicide rates that we’re seeing now are just completely unprecedented in both duration and magnitude. I noticed my other work lined up—that when that rise started coincided with the start of the illicit opioid crisis.



You found a link between opioid use and youth suicides, but not because youth were using opioids. What did you find?



David PowellDavid Powell

The shift from prescription opioids to illicit opioids was really caused by the reformulation of OxyContin. In late 2010, they stopped selling the original version, and they released this abuse-deterrent version of OxyContin.



In this previous study, I found that areas which had higher rates of OxyContin misuse were the areas where you saw this sharper increase in heroin deaths. Heroin deaths began to increase in 2010, 2011, and then eventually fentanyl deaths increased more in those places too.



I basically took that same material strategy and used it on child suicide rates. And it was the exact same pattern: the places that had really high rates of OxyContin use prior to reformulation, they’re the ones where you see this major shift to heroin and fentanyl and that’s where you see the rise in child suicide rates.



I also have rates of just pain reliever misuse more generally. And those don’t predict anything about child suicide rates after 2010. So, it was unique to OxyContin.



Children themselves don’t really misuse opioids at very high rates, so you don’t see that many deaths from illicit opioids among children under 18. That’s changed a bit in like the last couple years. That suggests that there’s some other mechanism that’s affecting them, and that’s where paper doesn’t have a great answer.



But it suggests that it’s more about the broader effects of the opiate crisis worsening conditions for children in general. There’s increased rates of child neglect, there’s worsening economic conditions. So, all these things that are adding stressors to households.



#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
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The pandemic and social media have both gotten a lot of blame for the youth mental health crisis. How big a piece of the youth mental health crisis is the opioid epidemic?



It’s a big piece. But I’ll caveat that. paper concludes that about half of the rise of child suicides can be linked to this shift to illicit opioids. The caveat is, if I had really good experiments for all these different hypotheses we have , like social media, and I did studies for each of those, that could all add up to over a hundred percent pretty easily. You might need four different things to happen.



So that would look weird, if somebody’s 50 percent responsible, 80 percent responsible, but it might be just because it’s the interaction of those things that really matters. That’s a frustrating answer because it doesn’t really rule out anything either. But it does say that the opiate crisis itself is currently playing a major role.



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Friday, January 26, 2024

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Native American communities have the highest suicide rates, yet interventions are scarce

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Native American communities have the highest suicide rates, yet interventions are scarce

By Cheryl Platzman Weinstock, KFF Health News





Heart Butte, Montana, which lies on the Blackfeet Indian Reservatio, is pictured in 2019.

Heart Butte, Montana, which lies on the Blackfeet Indian Reservation, is pictured in 2019.Rion Sanders/Great Falls Tribune/USA Today NetworkKFF Health News — 



Editor’s Note: If you or someone you know may be experiencing a mental health crisis, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by dialing or texting “988.” To reach the Native and Strong Lifeline, call “988” and press 4.



Amanda MorningStar has watched her children struggle with mental health issues, including suicidal thoughts. She often wonders why.



“We’re family-oriented and we do stuff together. I had healthy pregnancies. We’re very protective of our kids,” said MorningStar, who lives in Heart Butte, Montana, a town of about 600 residents on the Blackfeet Indian Reservation.



Yet despite her best efforts, MorningStar said, her family faces a grim reality that touches Native American communities nationwide. About a year ago, her 15-year-old son, Ben, was so grief-stricken over his cousin’s suicide and two classmates’ suicides that he tried to kill himself.



“Their deaths made me feel like part of me was not here. I was gone. I was lost,” said Ben MorningStar.



He spent more than a week in an inpatient mental health unit, but once home, he was offered sparse mental health resources.



Non-Hispanic Indigenous people in the United States die by suicide at higher rates than any other racial or ethnic group, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The suicide rate among Montana’s Native American youth is more than five times the statewide rate for the same age group, according to the Montana Budget and Policy Center. Montana ranked third-worst among states for suicide deaths in 2020, and 25% of all suicides in the state from 2017 through 2021 were among Native Americans, even though they represent only 6.5% of the state’s population.



Despite decades of research into suicide prevention, suicide rates among Indigenous people have remained stubbornly high, especially among Indigenous people ages 10 to 24, according to the CDC. Experts say that’s because the national strategy for suicide prevention isn’t culturally relevant or sensitive to Native American communities’ unique values.



Suicide rates have increased among other racial and ethnic minorities, too, but to lesser degrees.



Systemic issues and structural inequities, including underfunded and under-resourced services from the federal Indian Health Service, also hamper suicide prevention in Indigenous communities. “I worried who was going to keep my son safe. Who could he call or reach out to? There are really no resources in Heart Butte,” said Amanda MorningStar.



Ben MorningStar said he is doing better. He now knows not to isolate himself when problems occur and that “it is OK to cry, and I got friends I can go to when I have a bad day. Friends are better than anything,” he said.



His twice-a-month, 15-minute virtual telehealth behavioral therapy visits from IHS were recently reduced to once a month.



#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy



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Mary Cwik, a psychologist and senior scientist at the Center for Indigenous Health at Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health in Baltimore, said the systemic shortcomings MorningStar has witnessed are symptoms of a national strategy that isn’t compatible with Indigenous value systems.



“It is not clear that the creation of the national strategy had Indigenous voices informing the priorities,” Cwik said.



The cause of high suicide rates in Indigenous communities is complex. Native Americans often live with the weight of more adverse childhood experiences than other populations — things such as emotional, physical, and sexual abuse, intimate partner violence, substance misuse, mental illness, parental separation or divorce, incarceration, and poverty.



Those adverse experiences stack upon intergenerational trauma caused by racial discrimination, colonization, forced relocation, and government-sanctioned abduction to boarding schools that persisted until the 1970s.



“There’s no way that communities shaped by these forces for so long will get rid of their problems fast by medical services. A lot of people in Indian Country struggle to retain hope. It’s easy to conclude that nothing can fix it,” said Joseph P. Gone, a professor of anthropology and global health and social medicine at Harvard University and member of the Gros Ventre (Aaniiih) tribal nation of Montana.



Most tribal nations are interested in collaborative research, but funding for such work is hard to come by, said Gone. So is funding for additional programs and services.



Stephen O’Connor, who leads the suicide prevention research program at the Division of Services and Intervention Research at the National Institute of Mental Health, said, “Given the crisis of suicide in Native American populations, we need more funding and continued sustained funding for research in this area.”



Getting grants for scientific research from NIMH, which is part of the National Institutes of Health, can be challenging, especially for smaller tribes, he said.



Amanda MorningStar says her family faces a grim reality that touches Native Americans nationwide. About a year ago, her son was so grief-stricken over his cousin's and two classmates' suicides that he tried to kill himself. (Amanda MorningStar)

Amanda MorningStar says her family faces a grim reality that touches Native Americans nationwide. About a year ago, her son was so grief-stricken over his cousin's and two classmates' suicides that he tried to kill himself. (Amanda MorningStar)Amanda MorningStar



Officials at the NIMH and the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration said that they continue to build research partnerships with tribal nations and that they recently launched new grants and multiple programs that are culturally informed and evidence-based to reduce suicide in tribal communities.



NIMH researchers are even adjusting a commonly used suicide screening tool to incorporate more culturally appropriate language for Indigenous people.



Teresa Brockie, an associate professor at Johns Hopkins School of Nursing, is one of a small but growing number of researchers, many of whom are Indigenous, who study suicide prevention and intervention strategies that respect Indigenous beliefs and customs. Those strategies include smudging — the practice of burning medicinal plants to cleanse and connect people with their creator.



Without this understanding, research is hampered because people in tribal communities have “universal mistrust of health care and other colonized systems that have not been helpful to our people or proven to be supportive,” said Brockie, a member of Fort Belknap reservation’s Aaniiih Tribe.



Brockie is leading one of the first randomized controlled trials studying Indigenous people at Fort Peck. The project aims to reduce suicide risk by helping parents and caregivers deal with their own stress and trauma and develop positive coping skills. It’s also working to strengthen children’s tribal identity, connectivity, and spirituality.



In 2015, she reported on a study she led in 2011 to collect suicide data at the Fort Peck reservation in northeastern Montana. She found that adverse childhood experiences have a cumulative effect on suicide risk and also that tribal identity, strong connections with friends and family, and staying in school were protective against suicide.



In Arizona, Cwik is collaborating with the White Mountain Apache Tribe to help leaders there evaluate the impact of a comprehensive suicide surveillance system they created. So far, the program has reduced the overall Apache suicide rate by 38.3 % and the rate among young people ages 15 to 24 by 23%, according to the American Public Health Association.



Several tribal communities are attempting to implement a similar system in their communities, said Cwik.



Still, many tribal communities rely on limited mental health resources available through the Indian Health Service. One person at IHS is tasked with addressing suicide across almost 600 tribal nations.



Pamela End of Horn, a social worker and national suicide prevention consultant at IHS, said the Department of Veterans Affairs “has a suicide coordinator in every medical center across the U.S., plus case managers, and they have an entire office dedicated to suicide prevention. In Indian Health Service it is just me and that’s it.”



End of Horn, a member of the Oglala Lakota Sioux Tribe of the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation in South Dakota, blames politics for the discrepancy.



“Tribal leaders are pushing for more suicide prevention programs but lack political investment. The VA has strong proactive activities related to suicide and the backing of political leaders and veterans’ groups,” she said.



It is also hard to get mental health professionals to work on remote reservations, while VA centers tend to be in larger cities.



Even if more mental health services were available, they can be stigmatizing, re-traumatizing, and culturally incongruent for Indigenous people.



Many states are using creative strategies to stop suicide. A pilot project by the Rural Behavioral Health Institute screened more than 1,000 students in 10 Montana schools from 2020 to 2022. The governor of Montana is hoping to use state money to expand mental health screening for all schools.



Experts say the kinds of strategies best suited to prevent suicide among Native Americans should deliver services that reflect their diversity, traditions, and cultural and language needs.



That’s what Robert Coberly, 44, was searching for when he needed help.



Coberly began having suicidal thoughts at 10 years old.



“I was scared to live and scared to die. I just didn’t care,” said Coberly, who is a member of the Tulalip Tribes.



He suffered in private for nearly a decade until he almost died in a car crash while driving drunk. After a stay at a rehabilitation center, Coberly remained stable. Years later, though, his suicidal thoughts came rushing back when one of his children died. He sought treatment at a behavioral health center where some of the therapists were Indigenous. They blended Western methodologies with Indigenous customs, which, he said, “I was craving and what I needed.”



Part of his therapy included going to a sweat lodge for ritual steam baths as a means of purification and prayer.



Coberly was a counselor for the Native and Strong Lifeline, the first 988 crisis line for Indigenous people. He is now one of the crisis line tribal resource specialists connecting Indigenous people from Washington state with the resources they need.



“It’s about time we had this line. To be able to connect people with resources and listen to them is something I can’t explain except that I was in a situation where I wanted someone to hear me and talk to,” said Coberly.



Amanda MorningStar said she still worries about her son night and day, but he tries to reassure her.



“I go to sleep and wake up the next day to keep it going,” Ben MorningStar said. “I only get one chance. I might as well make the best of it.”



KFF Health News, formerly known as Kaiser Health News (KHN), is a national newsroom that produces in-depth journalism about health issues and is one of the core operating programs at KFF — the independent source for health policy research, polling, and journalism.




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James Donaldson on Mental Health - Why Girls Apologize Too Much
How to help them stop saying 'sorry' and express confidence

Writer: Rae Jacobson

Clinical Experts: Rachel Busman, PsyD, ABPP , Stephen Hinshaw, PhD

- Conflicting messages

- The focus on empathy

- The bossy problem

- Watch your language

- Praise directness

- Keep apologies real

- Tools for the future

We often hear that women apologize more than men—and that it isn’t always a healthy or effective thing to do. Recently comedian Amy Schumer did a sketch about female thought leaders at a conference who were so busy apologizing on stage that they never got the opportunity to actually share their expertise. 

Apologizing can be a good thing—a sign that a child is empathetic and has strong social skills. But saying you’re sorry too much can backfire.

For instance, when a girl starts a statement by saying, “Sorry, but… ” or “I might be wrong, but …” she may think she’s being polite, but it undermines what she’s about to say. “It says ‘I don’t feel confident in what I’m about to say or my right to say it,’ ” explains Rachel Busman, PsyD, a clinical psychologist.

So what causes girls to be prone to apologize, and what can parents do to help?

Conflicting messages

As girls grow up, the messages they receive about what “good” behavior looks like get more and more complicated and confusing. In his book The Triple Bind, Stephen Hinshaw, PhD, explains that as they reach adolescence, girls are increasingly asked to conform to what he views as “an impossible set of standards.”

One of the key tasks of adolescence is what’s called “individuation,” or the process of becoming a unique individual, explains Dr. Hinshaw, who is a clinical psychologist. Boys, he says, “are traditionally seen as having more of the skills that lead to individuation: assertiveness, self-confidence, expressiveness, and commitment to one’s own agenda.”

From a young age boys are praised and encouraged when they show direct, confident behaviors—winning a game or climbing to the highest branch.

Girls, Dr. Hinshaw explains, are also told to be ambitious, smart, and successful. But for them the directive comes with conditions that hamper individuation.

- Be confident, but not conceited

- Be smart, but no one likes a know-it-all

- Ambition is good, but trying too hard is bad

- Be assertive, but only if it doesn’t upset anyone else

The focus on empathy

These confusing messages reflect the fact that girls are often expected to be empathetic and hyper-aware of how their actions affect others. In fact, one study of college age men and women claimed that both sexes apologized in equal proportion for what they considered to be offensive behavior, but women reported committing more offenses than men, indicating that their threshold for perceiving offense was much lower.

This could be because girls and women are conditioned to be more attuned to—and responsible for—how their behavior affects others. This empathetic awareness complicates behaviors associated with success: winning, drive, and competition.

For example, if a boy wins a race, he’s less likely to consider how his victory affected his competitors, whereas a girl might win and be happy for it, but downplay her success out of concern for the loser’s feelings.

“Girls,” explains Dr. Hinshaw, “are more often rewarded for focusing on others’ feelings while boys are more often rewarded for asserting themselves.”

The bossy problem

Girls who don’t play by these rules often experience negative social feedback. A girl who is assertive might be called bossy, a girl who shows confidence in her ideas, conceited. Though still told to work hard, get ahead, and be successful, girls are often shamed, especially by other female peers, if they appear pushy, overly confident, or too forward.

“No one wants to be seen as bossy,” says Dr. Busman. “So it can be tempting for a girl to use qualifying language to avoid being viewed in a negative light by her peers or authority figures.”

Girls begin to pepper their language with apologies and qualifiers that turn statements into suggestions and make requests feel less demanding. “I know” becomes “I’m not sure, but…” “I have a question” turns into “Sorry, would it be okay if I asked a question?”

Tuning into these conversational tics is the first step to helping your daughter use more confident language. Here are a few to listen for:

Over-apologizing: Apologizing too often or when there’s no actual reason to do so. For example, a girl apologizing to a waitress for not being ready to order, or an automatic “Sorry!” if she brushes the arm of the person next to her in class.

Starting sentences with “sorry”: This gets girls off on the wrong foot from the get-go, says Dr. Busman. “Beginning a comment with an apology immediately puts her in a one-down position,” she explains. “It instantly delegitimizes any authority she has.”

Hedging: Another stealthier version of apologetic language is “hedging”—not exactly apologizing, but still expressing a lack of confidence. Examples of common hedges include:

- “Excuse me, can I ask…”

- “I might be wrong, but …”

- “I don’t know, but…”

So how can parents help girls learn speak more confidently?

Watch your language

The first thing parents can do is tune into their own linguistic habits. ”Kids are great imitators,” says Dr. Busman. Girls who hear parents—especially moms—over-apologizing or using hedging language are likely to pick up the habit themselves. Being mindful of your own language will set an example of confident speech and show her you support her learning to do the same.

Praise directness

One of the reasons girls use hedging or apologetic language is because it feels more polite. Although all genders are encouraged to have good manners, a heavier value is often placed on girls’ ability to be nice, polite, and compliant.

There’s nothing wrong with being polite—if the situation calls for it, says Dr. Busman. “Saying ‘excuse me,’ if she’s actually interrupting a conversation is completely reasonable and shows awareness. But prefacing questions with ‘excuse me’ when she’s not interrupting sends the message that she feels like she needs permission to express her ideas.”

Instead of overprizing politeness, help your daughter focus on being direct first, and polite second. Using clear language demonstrates confidence and makes it more likely her point will be heard. Work together to test out alternative statements that are polite, but direct. For example, compare the following responses to a lab partner who is struggling with a task:

- Indirect response: “Sorry, I’m not really an expert, but maybe I can help?”

- “Direct response: “I know how to do this, would you like me to show you?”

The direct response is still polite, but it also communicates that she’s comfortable taking the lead and confident in her skills.

Disagreement is okay

Another reason girls qualify and apologize is to defuse or avoid situations that could lead to disagreements. It can feel scary to commit to a statement that others might not like, but learning to be comfortable with disagreement and debate will make her more resilient and give her a healthy toolkit for managing adversity in the future.

Keep apologies real

Of course, not all apologies are unnecessary, but it’s important to know the difference between situations that call for a real, heartfelt apology and times when she’s just saying sorry out of habit. Start by asking her to be mindful of why she’s apologizing or being indirect.

For example, if she has a question during a presentation in class there’s no reason to begin her statement with “I’m sorry, can I ask a question?” On the flip side, if she interrupts a classmate or talks out of turn, that might be something to apologize for. Bringing her awareness to when—and why—she’s apologizing will help her be more confident and make her true apologies more meaningful.

#James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy

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Tools for the future

Helping your daughter drop unnecessary apologies and begin using clear, direct language will give her a powerful tool for success in the future.  

No matter who she’s speaking to—friends, teachers, co-workers, or even someday the employees of her own company—knowing how to communicate with confidence sends the message that she’s self-assured, proud of her skills, and comfortable expressing her ideas.

And she’s not sorry about it one bit.
https://standingabovethecrowd.com/james-donaldson-on-mental-health-why-girls-apologize-too-much/

Thursday, January 25, 2024

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Why Girls Apologize Too Much

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Why Girls Apologize Too Much



How to help them stop saying 'sorry' and express confidence





Writer: Rae Jacobson



Clinical Experts: Rachel Busman, PsyD, ABPP , Stephen Hinshaw, PhD



- Conflicting messages

- The focus on empathy

- The bossy problem

- Watch your language

- Praise directness

- Keep apologies real

- Tools for the future



We often hear that women apologize more than men—and that it isn’t always a healthy or effective thing to do. Recently comedian Amy Schumer did a sketch about female thought leaders at a conference who were so busy apologizing on stage that they never got the opportunity to actually share their expertise. 



Apologizing can be a good thing—a sign that a child is empathetic and has strong social skills. But saying you’re sorry too much can backfire.



For instance, when a girl starts a statement by saying, “Sorry, but… ” or “I might be wrong, but …” she may think she’s being polite, but it undermines what she’s about to say. “It says ‘I don’t feel confident in what I’m about to say or my right to say it,’ ” explains Rachel Busman, PsyD, a clinical psychologist.



So what causes girls to be prone to apologize, and what can parents do to help?



Conflicting messages



As girls grow up, the messages they receive about what “good” behavior looks like get more and more complicated and confusing. In his book The Triple Bind, Stephen Hinshaw, PhD, explains that as they reach adolescence, girls are increasingly asked to conform to what he views as “an impossible set of standards.”



One of the key tasks of adolescence is what’s called “individuation,” or the process of becoming a unique individual, explains Dr. Hinshaw, who is a clinical psychologist. Boys, he says, “are traditionally seen as having more of the skills that lead to individuation: assertiveness, self-confidence, expressiveness, and commitment to one’s own agenda.”



From a young age boys are praised and encouraged when they show direct, confident behaviors—winning a game or climbing to the highest branch.



Girls, Dr. Hinshaw explains, are also told to be ambitious, smart, and successful. But for them the directive comes with conditions that hamper individuation.



- Be confident, but not conceited

- Be smart, but no one likes a know-it-all

- Ambition is good, but trying too hard is bad

- Be assertive, but only if it doesn’t upset anyone else

The focus on empathy



These confusing messages reflect the fact that girls are often expected to be empathetic and hyper-aware of how their actions affect others. In fact, one study of college age men and women claimed that both sexes apologized in equal proportion for what they considered to be offensive behavior, but women reported committing more offenses than men, indicating that their threshold for perceiving offense was much lower.



This could be because girls and women are conditioned to be more attuned to—and responsible for—how their behavior affects others. This empathetic awareness complicates behaviors associated with success: winning, drive, and competition.



For example, if a boy wins a race, he’s less likely to consider how his victory affected his competitors, whereas a girl might win and be happy for it, but downplay her success out of concern for the loser’s feelings.



“Girls,” explains Dr. Hinshaw, “are more often rewarded for focusing on others’ feelings while boys are more often rewarded for asserting themselves.”



The bossy problem



Girls who don’t play by these rules often experience negative social feedback. A girl who is assertive might be called bossy, a girl who shows confidence in her ideas, conceited. Though still told to work hard, get ahead, and be successful, girls are often shamed, especially by other female peers, if they appear pushy, overly confident, or too forward.



“No one wants to be seen as bossy,” says Dr. Busman. “So it can be tempting for a girl to use qualifying language to avoid being viewed in a negative light by her peers or authority figures.”



Girls begin to pepper their language with apologies and qualifiers that turn statements into suggestions and make requests feel less demanding. “I know” becomes “I’m not sure, but…” “I have a question” turns into “Sorry, would it be okay if I asked a question?”



Tuning into these conversational tics is the first step to helping your daughter use more confident language. Here are a few to listen for:



Over-apologizing: Apologizing too often or when there’s no actual reason to do so. For example, a girl apologizing to a waitress for not being ready to order, or an automatic “Sorry!” if she brushes the arm of the person next to her in class.



Starting sentences with “sorry”: This gets girls off on the wrong foot from the get-go, says Dr. Busman. “Beginning a comment with an apology immediately puts her in a one-down position,” she explains. “It instantly delegitimizes any authority she has.”



Hedging: Another stealthier version of apologetic language is “hedging”—not exactly apologizing, but still expressing a lack of confidence. Examples of common hedges include:



- “Excuse me, can I ask…”

- “I might be wrong, but …”

- “I don’t know, but…”

So how can parents help girls learn speak more confidently?



Watch your language



The first thing parents can do is tune into their own linguistic habits. ”Kids are great imitators,” says Dr. Busman. Girls who hear parents—especially moms—over-apologizing or using hedging language are likely to pick up the habit themselves. Being mindful of your own language will set an example of confident speech and show her you support her learning to do the same.



Praise directness



One of the reasons girls use hedging or apologetic language is because it feels more polite. Although all genders are encouraged to have good manners, a heavier value is often placed on girls’ ability to be nice, polite, and compliant.



There’s nothing wrong with being polite—if the situation calls for it, says Dr. Busman. “Saying ‘excuse me,’ if she’s actually interrupting a conversation is completely reasonable and shows awareness. But prefacing questions with ‘excuse me’ when she’s not interrupting sends the message that she feels like she needs permission to express her ideas.”



Instead of overprizing politeness, help your daughter focus on being direct first, and polite second. Using clear language demonstrates confidence and makes it more likely her point will be heard. Work together to test out alternative statements that are polite, but direct. For example, compare the following responses to a lab partner who is struggling with a task:



- Indirect response: “Sorry, I’m not really an expert, but maybe I can help?”

- “Direct response: “I know how to do this, would you like me to show you?”

The direct response is still polite, but it also communicates that she’s comfortable taking the lead and confident in her skills.



Disagreement is okay



Another reason girls qualify and apologize is to defuse or avoid situations that could lead to disagreements. It can feel scary to commit to a statement that others might not like, but learning to be comfortable with disagreement and debate will make her more resilient and give her a healthy toolkit for managing adversity in the future.



Keep apologies real



Of course, not all apologies are unnecessary, but it’s important to know the difference between situations that call for a real, heartfelt apology and times when she’s just saying sorry out of habit. Start by asking her to be mindful of why she’s apologizing or being indirect.



For example, if she has a question during a presentation in class there’s no reason to begin her statement with “I’m sorry, can I ask a question?” On the flip side, if she interrupts a classmate or talks out of turn, that might be something to apologize for. Bringing her awareness to when—and why—she’s apologizing will help her be more confident and make her true apologies more meaningful.



#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.
  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
Find out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundation
website www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,
#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy



Book

www.celebratingyourgiftoflife.com



Link for 40 Habits Signup
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Tools for the future



Helping your daughter drop unnecessary apologies and begin using clear, direct language will give her a powerful tool for success in the future.  



No matter who she’s speaking to—friends, teachers, co-workers, or even someday the employees of her own company—knowing how to communicate with confidence sends the message that she’s self-assured, proud of her skills, and comfortable expressing her ideas.



And she’s not sorry about it one bit.




https://standingabovethecrowd.com/james-donaldson-on-mental-health-why-girls-apologize-too-much/