- Call a helpline

- Take it slow

- Connect with others

- It will get better

- Focus on positives

- Develop routines

- Exercise

- Avoid #drugs and #alcohol

- What's linked to #suicidalideation?

- Next steps

If you feel like you can’t go on, these expert tips will help you stay safe and change your thinking

If things seem hopeless and you feel like giving up on life, it’s vital to know you’re not alone.

#CentersforDiseaseControlandPrevention (#CDC)Trusted Source data reveals that, in 2020, over 12 million #Americans ‘seriously thought about’ #suicide.

But there are ways to cope and help yourself if these thoughts and emotions loom. We spoke to experts to get their insights on the best steps to take.

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1. Call a helpline

Helplines are the most readily available resource for those in crisis mode, explains Dr. Ashley Smith, licensed #psychologist and co-founder of Peak Mind: The Center for Psychological Strength.

“Call or text #988 to talk to someone,” she states. “This is the #SuicideandCrisisLifeline, and someone is there 24/7 to help you. You can also call #911 or go to your nearest #emergencyroom if you feel unable to keep yourself safe.”

2. Take one step at a time

#Hopelessness and despair are often overwhelming emotions and can make getting through the following days or weeks feel impossible.

To make life more manageable, “take things one step at a time, even in five-minute blocks,” recommends Dr. Michael Groat, Chief Clinical Officer at Silver Hill Hospital.

“When distressed, we can sometimes feel overwhelmed and that we need to immediately solve everything difficult,” he adds. “Be patient with yourself.”

3. Look for meaningful opportunities to make connections

“Humans are social creatures,” states Dr. Laura Erickson-Schroth, M.A., Psychiatrist and Chief Medical Officer at The Jed Foundation. “Everyone is different, but reasons to live typically involve connection with others or a sense of purpose.”

Creating connections or purpose might involve volunteering at a local animal shelter, for instance, or learning a new skill in a group setting.

According to 2018 researchTrusted Source, volunteering to help others reduces #depression. It can also improve physical health, life satisfaction, and social well-being.

“Research on #suicide shows that, for most people, having a reason to live is powerful enough to keep them alive,” she notes.

4. Know that “brains lie”

While your mind might tell you nothing will ever improve, understand this isn’t the case.

“Our thinking can get twisted and become really negative, especially when we feel depressed, hopeless, or overwhelmed,” shares Smith. “Your mind might say, ‘There’s no other option except #suicide. It will never get better. Others would be better off without me.’”

But she continues, try to recognize your thoughts for what they are: just thoughts.

“Recognize that these feelings of #hopelessness can cause ‘tunnel vision’ and distort your emotions (which, in turn, can affect your actions),” agrees Dr. Taft Parsons III, Chief Psychiatric Officer at CVS Health.

“Reminding yourself that this pain can and will pass eventually is the first step to coping with #suicidalthoughts,” he adds.

5. Focus on the positives

If things seem hopeless, chances are you’ll find it tricky to recognize the good things in life — but they are there.

“Write a list of reasons to live,” says Smith. “Try to come up with as many as possible. Even the smallest reasons count!”

Groat suggests to “think about those you love, including pets. It’s important to remember that these people will miss you.”

Consider keeping a daily gratitude journal, as this can be a great way to consistently remind yourself of life’s positives.

When creating a list, it’s OK if you only start with a short list. But as you continue to incorporate this practice into your daily routine you may notice that your list will grow.

6. Keep to a routine

“Establishing a daily routine has been shown to benefit an individual’s #mentalhealth,” states Parsons.

“It helps alleviate #anxiety and combat #stress, allows us to cope with change, and supports the adoption of healthy habits.”

He adds that routines can involve regularly scheduled workout classes, meetings with family or friends, or hobbies.

7. Get moving

It might sound clichéd, but exercise really can help.

“Studies show that physical activity improves mood,” asserts Erickson-Schroth. “You won’t want to do it in the moment, but when you’re done, there’s a good chance you’ll feel a little better.”

Not into running? No problem: all movement counts. Consider engaging in exercises you enjoy which may include:

- yoga

- a dance workout

- running

- tai chi

- lifting weights

Planning ahead can also incentivize you. “It can be hard to make yourself exercise when you’re already feeling down, so sign up in advance for a class or make a standing date for a walk with a friend every week,” she recommends.

8. Avoid #alcohol and #drugs

When we feel low, it’s easy to turn to vices such as #alcohol or #drugs to try to improve our mood.

But these substances “affect the way you think and feel, and can make you more likely to engage in unhealthy habits or actions,” shares Parsons.

#Alcohol and #drugs negatively influence our brain’s neurotransmitters, which are considered key players in #mentalhealthconcerns such as #depression.

#Mentalhealthconditions associated with #suicidalthoughts

#Depression is the condition most often linked to #hopelessness and #suicideideation. In reality, these thoughts occur across a much broader range of concerns.

“#Psychoticdisorders, such as #schizophrenia, have the highest rates of death by #suicide,” shares Erickson-Schroth.

“There are other conditions where people experience #suicidalthoughts often, even if they do not lead to as many deaths by #suicide,” she adds. “Those with complex #posttraumaticstressdisorder and #borderlinepersonalitydisorder have high rates of #suicidalthoughts.”

But those without diagnosed #mentalhealthdisorders can also feel like the best option is to give up on life.

“Many who are suicidal despair of belonging, this can lead to painful feelings of #isolation and disconnection,” states Groat. “Accompanied by intense #self-hatred, #anxiety, or overwhelming distress, it is hard for individuals to imagine a time when things will ever be any better.”

Furthermore, Parson explains, environmental factors — such as prolonged #stress, life-altering events, or exposure to another person’s #suicide — can also increase an individual’s risk of developing feelings of #hopelessness.

Next steps

For those feeling despair or #hopelessness, it’s essential not to sit in silence.

“Recognize that you shouldn’t — and don’t have to — manage #suicidalthoughts or #behavior on your own,” asserts Parsons.

“Bottling up your emotions can make things worse,” he noted. “As hard as it may be to open up, knowing someone is on your side can help you tackle them.”

If you think about not carrying on with life but don’t have active thoughts about #self-harming, “seek connection with a #mentalhealthprofessional who can provide support and guidance,” says Erickson-Schroth.

Search for a #therapist on The National Register of Health Service #Psychologists, while this guide on JED’s website provides tips on finding a culturally competent #therapist.

If you’re in immediate danger of self-harming:

- Call or text #988 to reach the #SuicideandCrisisHotline

- #TheTrevorProject has crisis #counselors available via call, text, or web chat

- Contact a #counselor via the #Crisistextline (message ‘Talk’ to 741741)
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